Friday, January 27, 2012

Just Quit Ignoring What You Know You Need To Do

More than half the time we KNOW what we need to do.  Our intuition tells us what we need to do,  where we need to go, what we need to say, what or who we need to let go of.

But…we just don’t want to accept what we KNOW we need to do.  We argue with ourselves. We second guess ourselves.  We think “maybe” things aren’t “really” that bad. We think “maybe” we’re being too rash or harsh or mean or judgmental.

Just Do It!

So what do we do?  We go against what we KNOW we need to do.  Why do we do that?  Because usually what we need to do requires change, and change is hard.

But…no matter what… change is going to come.  The more we realize that we can be a part of the change process and we can help co-create our future, things start to shift. It’s not so scary anymore making the hard decisions and doing what we KNOW we need to do. We begin to see  more clearly that what is… may not be… all that there is.  This isn’t new. We already know this.  We already know from past experiences or current situations how not going ahead and doing what we know we need to do impacts us:

  • You hated your boss. You hated your job.  You dreaded waking up in the morning.  What did you do?  You stayed on.  You were scared of moving on (for one reason or the other).  What happened?  Eventually something changed, but maybe not the way you wanted it to.   The company downsized and you got laid off, or you had to take on m0re work because you were one of the one’s who didn’t get laid off.
  • You had outgrown your spouse.  You felt stuck in a miserable marriage.  You hated coming home.  You knew somebody needed to leave.  You knew separation was inevitable, it was just a matter of when, not if.  What did you do?  You stayed.  You were afraid to move on.  What happened?  Things got a lot worse and the break-up was horrible for everyone involved.
  • You’ve lived in the same town your whole life.  You’ve visited other places, but not lived any other place.  You’ve talked to people who had left their hometowns and they now talked about how “small” it seems to them.  You regret never having left.  You felt like you wanted to leave, but couldn’t see a path forward.  What did you do?  You stayed.  You were afraid to leave your hometown.  What happened?  You’re still there, feeling like you’ve missed out on something or feeling like a failure whenever you have to talk to people who’ve left and come back home to visit.
  • You’ve work for someone else your entire career.  Well, maybe you’ve done some small stuff on your own, but nothing on the level that you’ve dreamed. You’ve got great ideas (but who doesn’t).  You’ve got the education and the credentials to do your own thing. You look at others who’ve stepped out on their own and wonder how on earth they could have done it and you’re still stuck getting a paycheck.  You just sit back and wonder what the hold-up is.  Guess what?  You’re the hold-up.  You’ve been afraid to get started (and not just the go down get the business license, buy the business cards, write the business plan stuff — 20% of folks can and have done that) it’s the actual hitting the pavement,  making things happen, making money, and making a difference.

Most of us have been in one of the above situations, or something similar.

Your time has come. Stop waiting on it.   It’s your time to realize who we are, why you’re here and get on with what you KNOW you need to do.

Just keep moving towards what you KNOW you need to do. There is something inside of you that already knows. Trust it. Believe it and move forward.  NO ONE can tell you what to do.  NO ONE can tell you when to do it. NO ONE can live your life for you.  This is your life.  Make it your life.  Don’t live the life people think you should live.  Don’t live someone else’s life.  One day you’ll wake up and wonder –What the heck?  Is THIS my life? What’s going on? Who am I?  What am I doing?  Don’t wait too late to just quit doing what isn’t working.  Do what you know needs to be done in just one situation in your life and you will have the courage to live the life that you’ve imagined.

Just listen — get quiet — be still  — and listen

You KNOW What You Need To Do.

Now DO it!

 

 

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Just Quit Making New Year's Resolutions That Are All About Yourself

Why are you unhappy?

Because 99.9 per cent

Of everything you think,

And of everything you do,

Is for yourself —

And there isn’t one.

 *From Wei Wu Wei – Taoist Philosopher*

Monday, November 28, 2011

Just Quit Allowing Others to Hurt You Over and Over and Over Again

” Whatever You Are Willing To Put Up With,

Is Exactly What You Will Have.”

~ Dr. Robert Anthony

Is there someone in your life that you know for sure

that you need to Let Go of?  

It might be hard to actually do it,

but can you at least acknowledge it today?

How many times are you going to allow one person to hurt you?

Is once enough? (Of course not.  Maybe it was an innocent mistake.)

Is twice too many times? (Okay, it’s not a mistake, it’s on purpose.)

What about three times? (A pattern is developing.)

How many times will you turn the other way?

How many times will you pretend it didn’t happen?

How many times will you act like it’s okay.

(You’re not really hurt.  You’ll get over it.)

How many times will you talk yourself out of walking away so this person can’t hurt you anymore?

Of course, you could be wrong.  Your perspective could be off. You could be overreacting.

When you are certain that you can not accept or live with the behaviors of others and how it impacts you, then it’s time to Let Them Go.

If you know in your heart that long-term you can not accept how they treat you

  — STOP—-THINK—-

it’s just a matter of time before you have to face the facts.

Of course, you think things are going to change

What makes you think things are going to change?

You HOPE things are going to change.

HOPE is a good thing, but sometimes hope is just wishful thinking (be honest with yourself right now – you know it is).

You think it’s so hard to start over with a new relationship.

You think you’ve come so far with this person.

You think you won’t find anyone else who understands you as well.

But, you know that in all relationships there are

beginnings,

the middle

and endings.

Relationships are like stories.

You know that relationships change.

You know that sometimes that change is an ending.

You might not remember,

but you’ve probably been here before in a relationship,

so you know that you will survive.

 

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Just Quit Thinking Your Situations are Impossible

This marriage is impossible.

Paying these bills are impossible.

Finding a job is impossible.

Raising these teenagers is impossible.

Starting a company is impossible.

Losing weight is impossible.

Saving money is impossible.

Finishing college is impossible.

Forgiving others is impossible.

Keeping the house clean is impossible.

Finding time to get it all done is impossible.

Solving all the problems in this country is impossible.

Figuring out who “God” is – is impossible. 

If it were impossible then – it– would– NOT– be– possible–

under any circumstance.

Honestly, are many or any of these everyday “circumstances” really impossible?

Didn’t you think other things that were hard seem impossible too?

Didn’t they work out?

Maybe it was not easy or quick or solvable the way you wanted them to be, but they weren’t impossible.

Moving from

Impossible

to I’m Possible:

1. Accept What Is and Be Grateful For What Is

2. Decide that it is Possible because of the I’m in Possible

 3. See Opportunities from the I’m Possible Vantage Point

Let Go of “Impossible”

Free Yourself

 

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Just Quit Struggling - The Struggle is Over!

Stop The Struggle
Life is Not a Struggle!

Aren’t You Tired of Struggling?  I AM!

  • Struggling to make ends meet. (What on earth does that even mean any more?)
  • Struggling to make relationships “work”.
  • Struggling to find your path or mission in life.
  • Struggling to still have goals when you’ve watched them come and go.
  • Struggling to see a bright ending when everything looks bleak.
  • Struggling to still be in control when everything seems out of control.
  • Struggling to keep up with the news.
  • Struggling to keep up with technology.
  • Struggling to keep up with family and friends.
  • Struggling to stay on your job.
  • Struggling to keep your house maintenance up.
  • Struggling to keep your cars working.
  • Struggling to keep your marriage from falling apart.
  • Struggling to keep your kids on the straight and narrow.
  • Struggling to keep people out of your business.
  • Struggling to pay your bills.
  • Struggling to stay healthy.
  • Struggling to buy your medications.
  • Struggling to buy groceries.
  • Struggling to lose weight.
  • Struggling to keep the weight off.
  • Struggling to find love.
  • Struggling to find yourself.
  • Struggling to keep it all together.

The only Real Struggle is Seeing it All as a Struggle.

Just Let Go of Seeing Life as a Struggle.

Just Live.  Just Love.  Just Be.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Saturday, November 5, 2011

What Do You Need To Let Go Of To Embrace Love?

 

What if Love is All There Is?

What is Love?

Is Love a Thing?

Is Love an Emotion?

Is Love a Thought?

Is Love a Feeling?

Is Love a Choice?

Can we explain Love?

Is Love what you do?

Is Love what you say?

Is Love what you get?

How do you know you are Loved?

Is Love what someone does?

Is Love what someone says?

Is Love what someone buys?

How do we know we are Loving?

Do you know how to Love?

What if you’ve never been Loved?

How do you Learn to Love?

Who do you Love?

Do you Love Yourself?

How do you Know you Love Yourself?

Can you Love Others if you Don’t Love Yourself?

How do Others Know that you Love Them?

Is it Love or Is it Attachment?

Can you Let Go of What you Love?

Can you Let Go of Who you Love?

After you Let Go is Love Still There?

Where does Love Go when the Person Leaves?

Where does Love Go when another Person Hurts You?

What is the Relationship between Love and Hurt?

Can you Love Someone even if you Don’t like them?

Can you Love Someone even if you Don’t know them?

Can you Love a Thing?

Can you Love your Enemy?

Can you Love the Other?

Really, What is Love? (Suppose love is all there is…)

~by Ridea Richardson

 

 

Sunday, September 11, 2011

Just Quit Living in Hell When You've Seen A Glimpse of Heaven

There are some relationships that are like living in hell.

  • ~They are painful.
  • ~We don’t grow when we are in them.
  • ~They make us feel sad.

We wonder how we ended up in them and wonder still yet how to get out of them.

It’s worse when you discover a new relationship that feels great.

  • ~Feels Comfortable.
  • ~Feels Right.
  • ~Feels like Heaven.

So you have to ask yourself – – –

  • ~Do you stay in hell, when you know that you could go to heaven?

  • ~If you stay in hell, why you are staying there?  Is it because it’s painful,but the known?

  • ~Are you are willing to give up the familiar for the hopes of heaven? (You really don’t know FOR SURE that the new relationship will be heaven — you might end up being back in hell)

Maybe this is when all you can do is JUST QUIT the one relationship that you know FOR SURE is hell.

Have the fortitude and courage to face the pain of ending something that is not working.

Claim Your Power.

The Power to JUST QUIT

If you never JUST QUIT the “hell” relationship

you know FOR SURE that you will never enjoy the “heaven” one.

Life is what we make it.

Always has been, always will be.

 ~Eleanor Roosevelt