Monday, November 28, 2011

Just Quit Allowing Others to Hurt You Over and Over and Over Again

” Whatever You Are Willing To Put Up With,

Is Exactly What You Will Have.”

~ Dr. Robert Anthony

Is there someone in your life that you know for sure

that you need to Let Go of?  

It might be hard to actually do it,

but can you at least acknowledge it today?

How many times are you going to allow one person to hurt you?

Is once enough? (Of course not.  Maybe it was an innocent mistake.)

Is twice too many times? (Okay, it’s not a mistake, it’s on purpose.)

What about three times? (A pattern is developing.)

How many times will you turn the other way?

How many times will you pretend it didn’t happen?

How many times will you act like it’s okay.

(You’re not really hurt.  You’ll get over it.)

How many times will you talk yourself out of walking away so this person can’t hurt you anymore?

Of course, you could be wrong.  Your perspective could be off. You could be overreacting.

When you are certain that you can not accept or live with the behaviors of others and how it impacts you, then it’s time to Let Them Go.

If you know in your heart that long-term you can not accept how they treat you

  — STOP—-THINK—-

it’s just a matter of time before you have to face the facts.

Of course, you think things are going to change

What makes you think things are going to change?

You HOPE things are going to change.

HOPE is a good thing, but sometimes hope is just wishful thinking (be honest with yourself right now – you know it is).

You think it’s so hard to start over with a new relationship.

You think you’ve come so far with this person.

You think you won’t find anyone else who understands you as well.

But, you know that in all relationships there are

beginnings,

the middle

and endings.

Relationships are like stories.

You know that relationships change.

You know that sometimes that change is an ending.

You might not remember,

but you’ve probably been here before in a relationship,

so you know that you will survive.

 

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Just Quit Thinking Your Situations are Impossible

This marriage is impossible.

Paying these bills are impossible.

Finding a job is impossible.

Raising these teenagers is impossible.

Starting a company is impossible.

Losing weight is impossible.

Saving money is impossible.

Finishing college is impossible.

Forgiving others is impossible.

Keeping the house clean is impossible.

Finding time to get it all done is impossible.

Solving all the problems in this country is impossible.

Figuring out who “God” is – is impossible. 

If it were impossible then – it– would– NOT– be– possible–

under any circumstance.

Honestly, are many or any of these everyday “circumstances” really impossible?

Didn’t you think other things that were hard seem impossible too?

Didn’t they work out?

Maybe it was not easy or quick or solvable the way you wanted them to be, but they weren’t impossible.

Moving from

Impossible

to I’m Possible:

1. Accept What Is and Be Grateful For What Is

2. Decide that it is Possible because of the I’m in Possible

 3. See Opportunities from the I’m Possible Vantage Point

Let Go of “Impossible”

Free Yourself

 

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Just Quit Struggling - The Struggle is Over!

Stop The Struggle
Life is Not a Struggle!

Aren’t You Tired of Struggling?  I AM!

  • Struggling to make ends meet. (What on earth does that even mean any more?)
  • Struggling to make relationships “work”.
  • Struggling to find your path or mission in life.
  • Struggling to still have goals when you’ve watched them come and go.
  • Struggling to see a bright ending when everything looks bleak.
  • Struggling to still be in control when everything seems out of control.
  • Struggling to keep up with the news.
  • Struggling to keep up with technology.
  • Struggling to keep up with family and friends.
  • Struggling to stay on your job.
  • Struggling to keep your house maintenance up.
  • Struggling to keep your cars working.
  • Struggling to keep your marriage from falling apart.
  • Struggling to keep your kids on the straight and narrow.
  • Struggling to keep people out of your business.
  • Struggling to pay your bills.
  • Struggling to stay healthy.
  • Struggling to buy your medications.
  • Struggling to buy groceries.
  • Struggling to lose weight.
  • Struggling to keep the weight off.
  • Struggling to find love.
  • Struggling to find yourself.
  • Struggling to keep it all together.

The only Real Struggle is Seeing it All as a Struggle.

Just Let Go of Seeing Life as a Struggle.

Just Live.  Just Love.  Just Be.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Saturday, November 5, 2011

What Do You Need To Let Go Of To Embrace Love?

 

What if Love is All There Is?

What is Love?

Is Love a Thing?

Is Love an Emotion?

Is Love a Thought?

Is Love a Feeling?

Is Love a Choice?

Can we explain Love?

Is Love what you do?

Is Love what you say?

Is Love what you get?

How do you know you are Loved?

Is Love what someone does?

Is Love what someone says?

Is Love what someone buys?

How do we know we are Loving?

Do you know how to Love?

What if you’ve never been Loved?

How do you Learn to Love?

Who do you Love?

Do you Love Yourself?

How do you Know you Love Yourself?

Can you Love Others if you Don’t Love Yourself?

How do Others Know that you Love Them?

Is it Love or Is it Attachment?

Can you Let Go of What you Love?

Can you Let Go of Who you Love?

After you Let Go is Love Still There?

Where does Love Go when the Person Leaves?

Where does Love Go when another Person Hurts You?

What is the Relationship between Love and Hurt?

Can you Love Someone even if you Don’t like them?

Can you Love Someone even if you Don’t know them?

Can you Love a Thing?

Can you Love your Enemy?

Can you Love the Other?

Really, What is Love? (Suppose love is all there is…)

~by Ridea Richardson

 

 

Sunday, September 11, 2011

Just Quit Living in Hell When You've Seen A Glimpse of Heaven

There are some relationships that are like living in hell.

  • ~They are painful.
  • ~We don’t grow when we are in them.
  • ~They make us feel sad.

We wonder how we ended up in them and wonder still yet how to get out of them.

It’s worse when you discover a new relationship that feels great.

  • ~Feels Comfortable.
  • ~Feels Right.
  • ~Feels like Heaven.

So you have to ask yourself – – –

  • ~Do you stay in hell, when you know that you could go to heaven?

  • ~If you stay in hell, why you are staying there?  Is it because it’s painful,but the known?

  • ~Are you are willing to give up the familiar for the hopes of heaven? (You really don’t know FOR SURE that the new relationship will be heaven — you might end up being back in hell)

Maybe this is when all you can do is JUST QUIT the one relationship that you know FOR SURE is hell.

Have the fortitude and courage to face the pain of ending something that is not working.

Claim Your Power.

The Power to JUST QUIT

If you never JUST QUIT the “hell” relationship

you know FOR SURE that you will never enjoy the “heaven” one.

Life is what we make it.

Always has been, always will be.

 ~Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

Thursday, August 11, 2011

To Just Quit Takes Love and Courage

 

(I found the below somewhere on the web…

but it didn’t have any byline…it’s not mine..but it’s really good)

 

To let go does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To let go is not to enable,
but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
it’s to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective,
it’s to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fearless, love more and have courage

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Just Quit Living With a Broken Heart

 

How many times has your heart been broken and you’ve turned the other way?

How many times have you said to yourself that it doesn’t matter what someone did, didn’t do, said or didn’t say?

How many times have you told yourself how strong you are?

How many times have you thought about what you should have said or done when someone hurt you, but you didn’t say it or do it?

How many times have you played past hurts over and over  and over again in you mind?

How many times have you gotten to the point where you can’t even remember the hurt or the pain because it’s so far down and you’ve suppressed it?

How many times have you wondered if something “actually happened”, because it hurt you so badly and you’re blocking it out?

When are you going to deal with all the ways, things, and people who have hurt you?

How are you going to deal with it?

Are you going to deal with it?

How do you put your heart back together and become open again to love and relationships?

Isn’t it time to Just Quit Living With a Broken Heart?

Isn’t it time to Let Go of the hurts and the pains of the past?

Isn’t it time to Let Go of those who have hurt you, or brought you pain?

Isn’t it time to heal?  How can you heal your heart?

Isn’t it time to Let Go of the fears and the doubts of opening up to love again?

 If now isn’t the time  – then when is?