Message to "This Little Piggy"

The below survey entry came in yesterday  –

Way too much stress. Lack of direction. Not enough resources to complete project. Doubt anyone wants me there and I was told to find work elsewhere by a co-worker before I applied and I wish I would have left that position in good standing and never looked back. I took the job and I failed like I was told I would. My family considers me worthless now that I took a government job and probably disinherited me. Don’t be surprised if this little piggy goes to market and ends up in the obituaries.

~From a Business Analyst/Govt/Licensing living in the USA

There is something that is terribly wrong when a person is walking around feeling like this. This came in from a young man 26-35 yrs. old who indicated in the comments section that he’s already quit, he feels hopeless and needs a coach.

Again, this is someone who is young and starting out in the working world.

EVERYDAY  I ASK MYSELF WHAT MORE CAN I DO TO HELP PEOPLE WHO ARE SUFFERING? 

It feels like people are screaming for help; but no one can hear them because “this is just how it is in the working world today”.

Well, young man who wrote this if you find your way  back to this blog and read this post please know that you do not have to “end up in the obituaries” at such a young age.   If you were strong enough to quit a job like you were in; then YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH to not give up on yourself.  

Wake up every single morning knowing that there is HOPE in a new day.

HOPE is the opposite of despair and it is a very powerful force. 

Clearly, and I mean crystal clearly figure out what you want.  You need to see it like it has already happened – in living color – draw it – write it down – make it real.  It is NOT your job to struggle to MAKE it happen, it is your job to figure out what you WANT TO HAPPEN (or something better).

The universe (HOPE) will then conspire to make it so (if it is in alignment) this is why you have to add or something better.  Sounds hokey?  It’s not.  It works.  Think of it this way – if you are considering suicide then what do you have to lose to dream and dream big and then you have to WAIT.

It is the waiting that is hard, but wait you must. Get out of your head and JUST LIVE while you’re WAITING.  Do things you ENJOY doing (figure that out during the wait).  Things you love don’t have to cost much or any money –  it could be jogging, writing, reading, or flying a kite (whatever floats your boat).   Just start doing things that you enjoy and watch how your life starting changing. (And regarding needing a coach to help you make it through this…the coach that you need is deep within you…it led you to this blog post…) 

May You Be Happy Little Piggy, May You Be Well 

~Ridea  Your ridiculously benevolent superhero

Voices of The Painfully Employed Podcast #4

It is Sunday and time for the voices of the painfully employed.  There have been many entries since my last post and podcast.  I have decided to select just a few entries to record this week.  I’ve tried to cover several countries, generations, salary levels and job titles. (So sorry for all of the spikes in the audio, but I don’t have the time right now that it is going to take to correct them…maybe one day this week I’ll have time to work on fixing it…maybe not…)

Below are all the entries that have come in from July 2oth – August 8th; highlighted  are the few selected:

Reason Folks Want to Just Quit	Date of Entry
Location	Yesterday, 2:19AM
The stress is effecting my health, time away from my family	Friday, Aug 7th 10:27AM
Because i have dedicated my all to this company for a period of three years, less pay, unhappy with the treatment and my efforts have never being recognized, been promised a permanent position since a year ago. i am terribly unhappy.	Friday, Aug 7th 5:38AM
It is unsafe where I work. Also the workload is getting more and more with no relief in sight.Also one of my colleagues is treated like she can do no wrong whereas the other 2 (which includes) myself are ignored.	Thursday, Aug 6th 3:51PM
it makes me miserable (to the point where it is affecting both my mental and physical health), i feel i am not very good at it and it doesnt inspire, interest or satisfy me.	Thursday, Aug 6th 9:49AM
Hopelessness — for things to get better to make more money, the ppl etc. Not enough money. Wasting my time.	Thursday, Aug 6th 9:41AM
no room for career growth, lack of management support, no space for my creativity, no promotion and poor remuneration with discrimination	Thursday, Aug 6th 8:27AM
I wake up sick all the time I feel people are mess with me all the time	Thursday, Aug 6th 5:12AM
I’m tired. Physically. Mentally. I just don’t like being there anymore.	Wednesday, Aug 5th 6:53PM
It’s not me	Wednesday, Aug 5th 4:41PM
Because I am miserable and cry every morning before I go to work. I want to be happy.	Wednesday, Aug 5th 10:49AM
Spend more time with my daughter and find a career with retirement benefits and advancement opportunities.	Wednesday, Aug 5th 3:40AM
I have zero interest and no passion for it	Wednesday, Aug 5th 12:31AM
I am unhappy with my life in its present situation. I hate the city and the renting situation. My job makes me feel depressed and inadequate. After one year I do not have the knowledge needed to function effectively on my own. I am treated like an outsider by some of my co-workers whom I need to interact with to get my work done. I have been deprived of learning how to do my job due to lack of learning opportunities and co-workers refusing to share knowledge. I am tired of constantly feeling dumb and having to answer I don’t know when people come to me for help. I am upset that when requests come in I don’t know how to solve them and I have to depend / beg others for the information I need. I do not feel like I am growing as an employee and I feel that I have not acquired skills I can use elsewhere.	Tuesday, Aug 4th 6:33PM
I feel like I am trapped in an endless circle. I do not enjoy my job any more but it consumes every inch of my time and I will never get ahead enough to get out.	Tuesday, Aug 4th 6:22PM
The company I work for is completely ignorant to our industry, is disrespectful to me, doesn’t value me, and is asking me to treat others that way.	Tuesday, Aug 4th 5:13PM
my job leaves me feeling depressed and unhappy. i dread each and everyday I have to go	Tuesday, Aug 4th 1:17PM
I don’t have passion for doing what I do anymore. Waking up every morning to the same office, same pressures is draining me.	Tuesday, Aug 4th 12:40PM
Freedom	Tuesday, Aug 4th 7:13AM
The job is too overwhelming, can never catch up, feel anxious most of the time and don’t like being the third prson	Tuesday, Aug 4th 2:30AM
The job is too overwhelming, can never catch up, feel anxious most of the time and don’t like being the third prson	Tuesday, Aug 4th 2:30AM
Overworked and swamped working overtime, personal life has deteriorated due to lack of free time. Many long time coworkers have already resigned and left me doing additional work. Working conditions are hazardous and my general outlook has become jaded as a result of constantly dealing with deep issues. My passions and joys are cast aside as I try to recuperate for the next day.	Monday, Aug 3rd 2:39PM
I do not want to work for an organization..any organization. I want to be free to live life	Monday, Aug 3rd 11:34AM
Too stagnant, too overprotective and making me feel demoralised. As though I can’t make or do decision by myself. Feel very sick and tired of all the shit.	Monday, Aug 3rd 9:25AM
Because I can’t take being here any more. I can’t manage my work. I feel awful	Monday, Aug 3rd 4:46AM
Want to start my own Business. Feeling stressed out & not fitting the current job position	Monday, Aug 3rd 2:36AM
1. Bad Boss 2. Bad CEO 3. Bad Culture 4. No support 5. No future	Sunday, Aug 2nd 10:14PM
Don’t like the actual work, or the interactions with management. I dread every day and would be ok being fired because then at least it would be over.	Sunday, Aug 2nd 8:45PM
More and more is being added to my portfolio with no extra help. There is a big component of travelling to ensure my team is on track. When asked about extra help there is no money, I would have to take that FTE from the team and they are already at capacity . I have already done this and there is no more left to take. I am tired, I feel overworked, I keep thinking there must be more to life than being the hamster on the wheel. I want to just stop.	Sunday, Aug 2nd 6:30PM
Over worked w/ out compensation/ burned	Sunday, Aug 2nd 3:40PM
Over worked w/ out compensation/ burned	Sunday, Aug 2nd 3:37PM
Too much stress underpaid	Sunday, Aug 2nd 1:10PM
Yes	Sunday, Aug 2nd 10:49AM
I dont want to go working feeling nervous everyday	Sunday, Aug 2nd 2:41AM
– physical symptoms of stress- arms in pain, eyelashes fluttering, anxiety, constantly emotionally exhausted, no support at work, don’t agree with the management decisions, not same focus on education, all about budgets	Saturday, Aug 1st 9:30PM
I hate almost everything there is about my job other than the pay and that it is 1.8 miles from my home.	Saturday, Aug 1st 6:28PM
Because I am tired of the same shit at work every single week. Its like they all think that becausenrhey chose to be in the consulting field the rest of us want the same grinding hours every single week.	Saturday, Aug 1st 4:55PM
job is not satisfying to me. it makes me dread going to work	Saturday, Aug 1st 4:12PM
I hate by boss. Stress is making me ill. Ready for new endeavors and possibly entrepreneurship.	Saturday, Aug 1st 7:40AM
Not happy	Friday, Jul 31st 11:09PM
I want to quit because nearly everyday at work I feel like crawling to the bathroom to cry. We’re overworked and underpaid. I have stayed many times until 8 or 9 pm or even midnight and come in weekends to finish my work. Because I don’t want to underperform. But it absorbs so much of my time and energy that when I get home I barely have times for hobbies I love doing, such as drawing and painting. Hobbies that I wish would lead to a job.	Friday, Jul 31st 9:58PM
Think in new ideas a new path.	Friday, Jul 31st 4:40PM
I hate my job, hate the people i work with, want to phone in sick all the time, its making me depressed	Friday, Jul 31st 2:49PM
I don’t want to do this work anymore	Friday, Jul 31st 1:55PM
Every day is a struggle. I wake up every morning feeling more and more depressed.	Friday, Jul 31st 7:00AM
Management	Friday, Jul 31st 2:56AM
Job wants to relocate me to California again; this will be my 3rd move with this company in less than 18 months; second time in California; I was miserable in California and could barely make ends meet; the only reason I came out in the black was due to 1 3-paycheck month and the fact that one of my student loans hadn’t kicked in yet	Thursday, Jul 30th 8:25PM
I work too hard and don’t feel appreciated. I miss my kids and feel I need to be there more for them. My housework is slipping. I want to relax for a bit. I want to go back to school.	Thursday, Jul 30th 5:33PM
Being takin advantage of	Thursday, Jul 30th 3:21PM
stress	Thursday, Jul 30th 9:56AM
I feel like am an amateur in the office	Thursday, Jul 30th 8:17AM
Tired of my boss	Wednesday, Jul 29th 4:35PM
I am at a point in my life where I know what I don’t want in a career. I have spent years climbing the ladder in hopes of my success making me happy. It hasn’t. I place much more value on the intangibles. I know that any time I have taken a risk like this, I have landed on my feet and have been grateful for the experience. I am done wasting my time in a job that I’m not passionate about.	Wednesday, Jul 29th 3:47PM
I have another job lined up but I absolutely hate the place I am working and I want out. I want to be done with it.	Wednesday, Jul 29th 10:26AM
I hate my job and I have valid reasons to quit	Wednesday, Jul 29th 9:46AM
I wake up every day hating my job and my life	Wednesday, Jul 29th 9:16AM
I am not able to grow or learn new things, and the business has no strategy or direction.	Wednesday, Jul 29th 12:47AM
I suffered medically for 2.5 years. I need a break. I wake up with pain going to work, while there and one the way home. I feel my best when I am not there.	Tuesday, Jul 28th 11:45PM
DAILY STRUGGLE. I AM NOT PASSIONATE ABOUT WHAT I DO. STRESS FROM INCOMPETENCE, PROCRASTINATION, UNKNOWLEGEABLE AND LAZINESS NO BACK BONE CO WORKERS AND MANAGERS. DO NOT WANT TO EVER WORK FOR SOMEONE ELSE IN THE OTHER HALF OF MY LIFE. WANT TO ENJOY LIFE.	Tuesday, Jul 28th 1:20PM
I hate it. Every soul sucking minute. I work as a manager in retail and so tired of the constant lazy help and unrealistic corporate expectations.	Tuesday, Jul 28th 6:44AM
Because my boss has no appreciation for any of the work I do. She constantly belittles all accomplishments and creates road blocks because she doesn’t listen or pay attention to the emails, meeting and documents I created to improve alumni relations.	Monday, Jul 27th 7:45PM
work is monotonous. been working at a paint/hardware store for 17 months. too much sitting down when the store is not busy. depressed and feel like im stuck here. I work 52 hours, 6 days a week every week (holidays excluded). im burnt out, feel like a robot going to work everyday. I only stay because of societal pressure and living with mom and sister. if i quit I would probably end up staying home and eating/playing video games doing nothing productive. im 20 soon to be 21 years old.	Monday, Jul 27th 5:08PM
It’s soul destroying I hate the drive over, I feel put on and used.	Monday, Jul 27th 2:01PM
The stress and dissatisfaction of this job are consuming me, potentially threatening my health. It is completely unfulfilling.	Monday, Jul 27th 11:35AM
It’s a drain on my mental health. It inhibits my ability to tend to things that matter such as my physical health, personal relationships, etc.	Monday, Jul 27th 10:57AM
Because my jobs drains away all the energy in me. The environment undermines my selfconfidence. I am unhappy everyday and I don’t feel like this is how I want my life to be.	Monday, Jul 27th 2:41AM
I have lots of reasons. I don’t have time to write it all down	Sunday, Jul 26th 8:34PM
learn	Sunday, Jul 26th 3:19PM
Because I am moving overseas, am unhappy and afraid they will fire me first	Sunday, Jul 26th 11:07AM
The old company is moving too far away.	Sunday, Jul 26th 9:12AM
To find a better job for long term and growth.	Sunday, Jul 26th 2:00AM
I do a job that requires 100% presence and compassion. I have started to despise the people I should want to help. I am bored. I am restless. I often feel like I am simply going thru the motions. I hate the corporate culture. I am starting to dislike myself for not doing my job wholeheartedly. Somewhere I have said ‘yes’ to quitting and now I am on an endless loop of talking myself out of it because I crave financial security. Deep down I know I will not find doors opening for me until I take a leap of faith….	Saturday, Jul 25th 4:53PM
This career is not my passion. I want to be in control of my time and spend my waking hours doing work I love. When I am writing I can work for hours without stopping…when I am at work i am working in between socializing.	Saturday, Jul 25th 2:44PM
I have nothing left to give	Saturday, Jul 25th 10:34AM
I am not happy with my team members i am not happy with my director i dont find my job motivational i dont find my job moving me forward i am getting paid high i am stress with my working environment i havd to work on weekend team members are not tolerant	Friday, Jul 24th 5:59PM
I want my peace of mind back. I want to enjoy my life and not carry work with me everywhere i go.	Friday, Jul 24th 8:44AM
stressfull unstable hours constant schedual shfts	Friday, Jul 24th 7:12AM
I WANNA QUIT MY JOB WITHOUT ANOTHER JOB BECAUSE I FELT LIKE SOMETHING WILL COME IF I DO IT.	Friday, Jul 24th 1:16AM
No room for advancement	Thursday, Jul 23rd 1:32PM
Tired frustrating no work life balance	Thursday, Jul 23rd 10:23AM
Going into work each day sucks the life out of me little by little. I do not care about my work nor does it interest me. I find myself daydreaming and only giving tasks half my attention and as a result I’ve been making mistakes. i am so depressed and down all the time looking for another job seems impossible.	Thursday, Jul 23rd 6:22AM
Because I wake up depressed and miserable each and every day, knowing I have to go back to that and deal with people who make me wish I were dead.	Thursday, Jul 23rd 4:57AM
want freedom my own busines and career move	Thursday, Jul 23rd 2:02AM
Totally burned out. My performance is lagging and my physical health is suffering	Thursday, Jul 23rd 1:13AM
I’m 3 people in 1 not appreciated underpaid emotionally harassed and crapped on and overworked and exhausted	Wednesday, Jul 22nd 10:15PM
The stress of dealing with my boss’s poor management skills is making my anxiety and depression worse.	Wednesday, Jul 22nd 7:39PM
I couldnt eat and sleep well, Im exhausted and unable to adapt to very long weeks of work. I dont think staying any longer is healthy for me.	Wednesday, Jul 22nd 6:06PM
To travel and look for a life partner	Wednesday, Jul 22nd 2:33PM
For pursuit of a bigger goal. It has an examination and has a preparation period of a year.	Wednesday, Jul 22nd 12:38AM
Toxic work environment and scared my license is at risk. Don’t want to be the fall guy.	Tuesday, Jul 21st 8:05PM
This is not the line of work I want to be in. I do not like working with my current managers, this position does not offer any opportunity for growth. I am miserable with this job. I am ready to go.	Tuesday, Jul 21st 3:11PM
Peace of mind… enjoy life. Fulfill dreams	Tuesday, Jul 21st 9:33AM
Hate the job, love being creative, painting, etc	Monday, Jul 20th 2:45PM
Work enviornmwnt is stifling The pay is low The work is mundane & the same The commute is terrible for the position No growth	Monday, Jul 20th 11:21AM
very stressed…too lonely…living alone..no one to talk to …too sad.	Monday, Jul 20th 5:27AM
I am an engineer by education, workinginaMaharatna PSU in India for last 4.5 years. My work schedule is 9:30am -5:30 pm, 5 days/ week andworkburdenis bare minimum. Apart from it, I get ample time to pursue my hobbies like sports,novelreadingetc etc. Additionally, I actively take part in a number of events sports/ cultural that are being organized by societies, year round.I am a thinker type of person. This has led me to trouble, as my work doesn’t fascinate me at all. When I see 10-15 years in future, I see myself working in same monotony, which brings tension/ confusion as I feel like I will be bored to death in office.I really want to be free. Free to do whatever I like to do. Life without obligation, issues, sanctions & tensions. No burden at all. I want to be happy. Going to an office put restrain on me. It makes me what I am not i.e. it enslaves me. I want to roam around world carefree. I want to work with people because I want to and not because it will pay me off. I want to stuff solely because I want to do that and not because it will serve me money.At the present job, I feel like that I am working because I am getting paid. I want to feel the other way round. People across me says that you need money to survive and I get paid handsomely (all leisure of PSUs included), but I really want to change this idea altogether. I want to live in a world where survival is because of the work I like to do and is completely independent of money

Voices of the Painfully Employed Podcast #3

 Podcast #3 Survey Entries July 12th – 19th, 2015

If you’ve stumbled on this Blog and Podcast and you’re painfully employed just know that you will weather this storm…hold on…just hold on.  You are not alone.  There are others feeling like you are. You are validated.  Work the Just Quit Steps while you hold on. 

 

Below are the job titles/industries for this week:

Research Nurse

Events

Hospital Registrar

Vice President of sales

Healthcare

Sales

market research

Sales Assistant in a Retail Bakery

lawyer

Business Analyst/All kinds of industries/Information Technology

Insurance administration

Manager

Education manager

Financial Services

Architect

research

Administration for a labor union

health care

admin

retail

Junior Graphic Artist

Senior Manager – Information Technology

Engineer

Registered nurse

Graphic Specialist for a simulation company

Sales

Sales

Human Resources

Higher education

Manager

Human Resouces Manager

Park Ranger

Law

Deposit Product Management

Paralegal/Legal

care worker

Marketing

Quality executive

Programmer Analyst / Web Developer

rv industry

Trucker

Communications assistant

Manager in Commercial Banking

Software Developer in Test/Telecommunications

Rn

deputy director of a small family held contemporary art museum

Financial coordinator

Landscape Architecture

Behavior tech

Risk consultant

Senior Executive /manufacturing /hr

Consultant

Network support specialist/hr specialist

Voices of the Painfully Employed Podcast #2

It is Sunday at 4pm which is the hour of doom for those painfully employed.

If you found this post, please know that you are not alone. Above is Episode 2 of Just Quit & Live Giving Voice to the Painfully Employed.

Hang in there and remember you have the power of choice.

Do something this week to work your “Just Quit” & Live Plan.

Below are the job title/industries represented in the above podcast:

Risk Consultant
Senior Executive /manufacturing /hr
Consultant
Network support specialist/hr specialist
Surgical tech
Legal Consultant, governemnt agency
factory worker
Transportation Supervisor
Bussing
retail
clerk / cashier
Chef
Supervisor
Tourism
Enterprise Client Partner / Tech / Marketing
Quality Assurance manager/Manufacturing
customer logistics
Media planner / advertising
fast food
Technician
Forensic accounting
Program Assistant
Labourer
customer service
administrative assistant
Assistant branch manager
Retail manager
customer service
Mental Health
Computer technician in retail setting
Information Technology
Sales
Supply Chain
Restaurant manager
health
Director of Volunteer…but previous to that 14 1/2 years of recruitment…staffing
Accountant
Server
director
Pharma
corporate paralegal
Fast food manager
food and beverage
Sports Media
OFFICE WORK
Cleaner / student
catering Attendant
Youth and Family Conselor for behavioral children.
Retail
restaurant manager
Flight Attendant
Health Services
Gov
IS
Airline Customer Service Agent
accountant
Hospitality
customer services
Counsellor
supervisor in retail
Banker
Digital Marketing Specialist

The 8th Habit - Finding Your Voice

Not sure how this one got past me, but I listened to the 8th Habit yesterday by Stephen Covey. Before scouting/shopping for boho stuff to add to my Etsy site I went to the library to find a play-away to listen to when I ran across the 8th Habit. It was written 10 years ago, but is relevant today.

Covey talked about moving from the Industrial Age to the Knowledge Age and how Knowledge Age workers will not be satisfied with the old ways they were “managed” –  like things.  Knowledge workers would be looking for “meaning and purpose”.  

The main idea was that people would need to “find their voice” and help others to find their voice. Wow, that concept resonated with me.

I was most intrigued about the PAIN that he said Knowledge Workers would start to face.  It is the PAIN that I read about everyday in the “Just Quit” survey.  Some days the entries are worse than others.  It seems that June 16th was a particularly bad day. Below are the entries that came in:

I’m not a good fit for corporate culture, I’m not in position to truly impact change, and I’m tired of the politics game (I just don’t play it well). I want to do something that means something more than impact the bottom line or make my boss happy.	Tuesday, Jun 16th 10:33PM
its making me miserable..	Tuesday, Jun 16th 6:07PM
I get treated horribly, hurt, Be littled, treated like crap, work all the time, go unheard, be harassed,paid little, stressed to the max, unhappy and suicidal	Tuesday, Jun 16th 12:32PM
I am tired and fed up. I feel like working here is draining me physically, as well as creatively and this is extremely important to me. It is sucking the life out of me.	Tuesday, Jun 16th 8:19AM
A high level of unhappiness	Tuesday, Jun 16th 7:40AM
I’m suicidal.	Tuesday, Jun 16th 2:38AM

Workers are fed-up all over the world.  More than fed-up – suicidal. Something is dreadfully wrong.

When I listened to Covey’s 8th Habit it was like a siren going off.  Over the past year after blogging the book I’ve been contemplating what to do NEXT about this issue and WHY I can’t find anyone trying to solve this problem. Now, today, I realize that maybe MY voice is to GIVE voice to the PAIN that is happening all over the world.

In all honestly I’ve been hoping, wishing and praying that SOMEONE would do something, but it’s been TWELVE YEARS since I Just Quit and FOUR YEARS of blogging about it  and still I don’t see much help  out there for folks.   I see a bunch of coaches, self-help books, seminars, retreats and stuff for companies BUT I don’t think those approaches are working for the everyday person struggling to make it through this.

So, my next project is to give it voice, my voice. It’s not like people who find my blog and fill out the survey can tell anyone that they are in so much pain…pain, even to the point of suicide. Which is part of the pain…the loneliness…the suffering in silence…the “no one understands what I’m going through” feeling.  BUT…there is a community of people who do understand.  Almost 6,000 people have felt the need to complete the survey.  6,000 people from 106 countries.

If you’ve read this far and you are suicidal about your job, just know that you will make it through this madness.  You will survive this.  You will not kill yourself because of how you’re being treated at work or how much you hate your job.  I don’t type that lightly because I know how serious this is BUT there is hope.  You are not a victim.  You have the power of choice. You are strong enough to get through this and find your voice or your place in this world.  You are. Have Hope.  Have Faith. Believe.  Even if you have to go day-by-day; hour-by-hour; or minute-by-minute to survive then that is what you need to do.

DO NOT GIVE UP. 

P.S.

There is no time like the present. It’s now 7 p.m. and after going to buy a microphone from Best Buy and finding the software I needed I created my first podcast so I can give VOICE to the issue of chronic job stress for today’s workers.  In addition to blogging I’ll start sharing some of the weekly survey entries. Join me on Sunday afternoons. Don’t worry I hope to get better as time goes on and I hope to help those who find my site. Cheers! Ridea

 

Deciding To Be Happy & Uniquely You

Today, whatever day you find this post and read it – DECIDE to be happy — just try it for a day.  

Don’t worry about why you aren’t happy, can’t be happy, shouldn’t be happy — just “pretend” like you ARE happy.

Half of  the battle of “being” happy is being okay with who you are right here and now and knowing that you are working towards finding your place in the world. You might not be where you want to be, but just be where you are. 

Just for today, forget about being miserable in your job.  Forget about needing more money. Forget about all those things you want and don’t have…just…

DECIDE to be happy & Do it in style! 

 

 

People Are The Common Denominator In Stressful Workplaces

Daily I read the Just Quit survey results.  Daily there are people all of the world responding and looking for hope, looking for a way out of their stressful work situations.

As I look at the reasons people want to just quit there are many “individual” reasons.  This week we had 40 entries…40 folks who want to quit because of management, bullying, stress, coworkers, unprofessionalism, the culture, terrible bosses, etc.

As I look for a common denominator it is PEOPLE.  Not just PEOPLE, but PEOPLE who don’t value other PEOPLE.  PEOPLE who are not compassionate, don’t show empathy, are striving for power, money and prestige — at the expense of other PEOPLE.

It doesn’t seem to matter the job, profession or industry. This week’s list of professions is at the end of this post. It has occurred to me that you can’t escape the fact that you have to work with other people. They could be your boss, co-workers, team members or customers.

You can’t MAKE people act the way you want them to.  You can’t make people respect you. You can’t control them, but you can control yourself.  You can control your own emotions.  You can control how you think and treat other people.

I have an idea of what might work.  Show compassion to everyone you meet at work this week – even your boss – even the customers who get on your nerves or your co-workers.  Do this everyday and all day this week.  Just look at people and KNOW that they are suffering.  You may never know WHY they are suffering, but still show compassion and wish for them happiness.  Just send happiness their way in your thoughts.

I know this sounds weak and soft but there is something very powerful about doing that (while you yourself are suffering; maybe even depressed).   Suppose EVERYONE who reads this post does this at work this week? Collectively we can change the working world one place at a time.

So instead of focusing on being depressed, stressed, unhappy, and unfulfilled just show compassion to others this entire week – even those people you think are a jerk and/or you see as a part of the problem where you work…just try it.  Tweet me @Ridea or email me and let me know how it goes.

 

Physiotherapy	Today, 8:23PM
Associate brand manager	Today, 7:13PM
Bookkeeper	Today, 4:04PM
IT Contractor	Today, 3:03PM
Administration	Today, 12:07PM
Banking	Today, 12:06PM
mental health counselor	Today, 8:09AM
Team Leader	Today, 5:00AM
administration	Today, 2:12AM
civil engineering	Yesterday, 6:44PM
banking	Yesterday, 6:29PM
Retail-support team pricing and signing captain	Yesterday, 9:58AM
Retail	Yesterday, 8:36AM
Finance	Friday, May 29th 6:32PM
Human resources	Friday, May 29th 4:43PM
Network administrator	Friday, May 29th 4:41PM
Adult Education, coordinator	Friday, May 29th 1:16PM
merchandiser	Friday, May 29th 12:41PM
Youth and program development	Friday, May 29th 1:00AM
Youth Direct Care	Friday, May 29th 12:28AM
Marketing Campaign Manager	Thursday, May 28th 11:24PM
warehouse forklift operater	Thursday, May 28th 10:00PM
retail	Thursday, May 28th 4:05PM
programmer analyst	Thursday, May 28th 3:21PM
management	Thursday, May 28th 2:35PM
managing an ice arena	Thursday, May 28th 11:22AM
managing an ice arena	Thursday, May 28th 11:03AM
legal	Thursday, May 28th 5:42AM
PR	Thursday, May 28th 1:33AM
director of operations in trucking industry and truck driver	Wednesday, May 27th 9:06PM
director of operations in trucking industry and truck driver	Wednesday, May 27th 9:06PM
sign industry	Wednesday, May 27th 5:11PM
Communications	Wednesday, May 27th 8:43AM
Youth Development Specialist	Wednesday, May 27th 4:24AM
automotive quality engineer	Tuesday, May 26th 5:24PM
Client Service Manager	Tuesday, May 26th 2:48PM
receptionist	Tuesday, May 26th 8:08AM
Education	Tuesday, May 26th 7:35AM
Business Development manager	Tuesday, May 26th 6:06AM
store Manager	Monday, May 25th 10:40PM
Recruiment	Monday, May 25th 10:18PM
Pharmacy Tech	Monday, May 25th 3:10AM
Outside Sales / pharma	Sunday, May 24th 8:47PM
pt merchandiser	Sunday, May 24th 3:21PM
pt merchandiser	Sunday, May 24th 3:15PM
Operations Manager	Sunday, May 24th 2:46PM
aa	Sunday, May 24th 8:35AM
RN at hospital	Sunday, May 24th 8:17AM