“To be a person is to have a story to tell.” ~Isak Dinesen
Everybody has a story.
You have a story.
Everybody you meet today has a story.
We all have stories.
Your mom has (had) a story. Your dad has (had) a story. Your ancestors, your children and their children all have or will have stories.
Nina Simone was a FABULOUS piano player and she had her story. Here she is making up a song as she goes along…and telling us to “tell our story”. She says towards the end that “we always, we always, we always have a story” and plays the piano with passion as she goes in the creative zone.
What’s Your Story? Are You Telling It? Will You Listen To Someone Else’s Story Today? They Want to Tell Their Story Too. Letting Go (of What Is) & Letting Come (What Could Be) Is a Story of Transformation.
Don’t be Afraid To Let Go (of something/someone/some place) that you know that you need to let go of. If it no longer fits and no longer works for who you have become, then let it go. It Will Just Be Part of YOUR Story, so have courage and LET GO…(go into the tunnel of the unknown, you’ll come out on the other side)…LET COME the future that wants to emerge as a part of YOUR story.
Here is Nina Simone singing and playing “Feelings” with so much feeling…at about 3:10 she is simply amazing –
Love and pain go hand-in-hand don’t they? The more you “love” the more “pain” you have when you lose what you love.
Love a person…you break up, you get divorced or they die
Love your looks…they’ll fade
Love your body…it gets old, maybe you get fat, or even get cancer
Love your car…you hear funny sounds and it breaks down
Love your house…it needs repairs
Love your children…they don’t call because they’ve got their own lives
Love your grandchildren…they think you’re old and out of touch
Love your husband…he cheats on you
Love your wife…she cheats too (maybe she’s smarter about it, so you don’t even suspect it)
Love your job…it’s just a job and you get laid off or are worried about getting laid off
Love your money…it can only buy you stuff and more stuff and if you have a lot of money you’re wondering why the hell you aren’t happier!
Love your flower garden…it dies in the winter
Love your college degrees…yep you worked hard to get them and you spent a lot of money but sometimes those degrees are W-O-R-T-H-L-E-S-S. You could have went on-line and got the information for free if you’d known exactly what you were interested in learning. Don’t believe me? Here ya go…Coursera...free college courses from some of the top Universities…all free
Love your clothes…they get too small
Love your friends…guess what you confused being THEIR friend with them being YOURS…they never were really there for you
Love celebrities…they are people too…they’re just faking it acting like they’re making it
Love your pets…they cost you money and then they die and then THAT cost you money
Love your life…you’ll die too…one day…it’s really hard to accept it, but it’s true
Face it, life is about changing and growing which is all about letting go.
Yes, I agree that this post might seem “negative”, but “negative” is an aspect of life. Until you embrace that you’ll be running around thinking everything is suppose to be “positive”. That ain’t how life works.
Keep on loving, but realize that a part of loving is losing and it hurts. You will be in pain. You have to learn to embrace both the love and the pain of loving.
I heard the below last night on NPR’s Moth Radio Hour. It made me think of how we need to take the “clown” mask off our face and live our lives embracing both the “best of times and the worse of times”. We need to have compassion for ourselves and for others because everyone is “dealing” with something.
As the below will show you (be prepared it might bring up some strong emotions) sometimes you have to “man-up” and take life head-on — letting go of one thing after the other — until you get down to the core of who you are and what you’re made of.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed
by the things you didn’t do,
then by the things you did do.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.
Mark Twain
A Clown that was in my office. He twirled around on a spindle. He fell and broke. I looked at it and thought:”Don’t put the clowns back together that are in your life, leave them broken.” I glued the broken pieces onto a piece of wood instead of gluing them back together and made this plaque entitled NO MORE CLOWNS
The Clowns:
Habits…that don’t serve you
People…that don’t like you
Food…that doesn’t taste good
Beliefs…that aren’t questioned
Friends…that aren’t there for you
Thoughts…that run like broken records
Pleasing Others…even though it makes you miserable
Not Doing Stuff…because of what others may think
Putting Things Off…you know eventually you’ll have to do
Reliving The Past…that you can’t bring back
Closing Your Heart…because you’ve been hurt
Doing Work…that doesn’t serve others
Doing Work…that hurts others
Lying To Yourself…about yourself
Denying The Truth…as you discover it
Settling for “what is” or “who is” or “where you are”
Wasting Your Life
Being Afraid…To Let Go
What are the Clowns in Your Life?
The Clowns are a metaphor for things that you need to let go of. Things that have run its course.Things that are holding you back.
Just let them go. Don’t keep fixing them up.
If you don’t let them go you can’t EXPLORE. DREAM. DISCOVER. the life that is waiting for you. It’s waiting on you, but you have to sail away from the safe harbor (the known for the unknown).
I created this survey because of the number of emails that I get from folks who are so miserable in their current job situations. Also, I don’t see any real help out there on the internet to help people make this decision.
There is a little bit of fear in courage…just a little bit…
Quitting without another job takes courage. It’s a tough decision. Don’t expect this process to be easy. It’s NOT going to easy, but it can be very rewarding.
Quitting without another job takes planning. You might be really miserable in your current job, but you didn’t get here overnight and you are not going to get out of it overnight either. If you fail to plan, you WILL fail in this endeavor. What you will find when you start planning for quitting without another job lined up is the EXCITEMENT about the POSSIBILITIES for your life and your future.
Quitting without another job, is at the end of the day YOUR decision. It is NOT, however, one of those life decisions to make lightly.
I hope the survey helps you, or someone you know who might be struggling trying to make this decision.
