Reflecting on Love, Pain and Letting Go
Love and pain go hand-in-hand don’t they? The more you “love” the more “pain” you have when you lose what you love.
Love a person…you break up, you get divorced or they die
Love your looks…they’ll fade
Love your body…it gets old, maybe you get fat, or even get cancer
Love your car…you hear funny sounds and it breaks down
Love your house…it needs repairs
Love your children…they don’t call because they’ve got their own lives
Love your grandchildren…they think you’re old and out of touch
Love your husband…he cheats on you
Love your wife…she cheats too (maybe she’s smarter about it, so you don’t even suspect it)
Love your job…it’s just a job and you get laid off or are worried about getting laid off
Love your money…it can only buy you stuff and more stuff and if you have a lot of money you’re wondering why the hell you aren’t happier!
Love your flower garden…it dies in the winter
Love your college degrees…yep you worked hard to get them and you spent a lot of money but sometimes those degrees are W-O-R-T-H-L-E-S-S. You could have went on-line and got the information for free if you’d known exactly what you were interested in learning. Don’t believe me? Here ya go…Coursera...free college courses from some of the top Universities…all free
Love your clothes…they get too small
Love your friends…guess what you confused being THEIR friend with them being YOURS…they never were really there for you
Love celebrities…they are people too…they’re just faking it acting like they’re making it
Love your pets…they cost you money and then they die and then THAT cost you money
Love your life…you’ll die too…one day…it’s really hard to accept it, but it’s true
Face it, life is about changing and growing which is all about letting go.
Yes, I agree that this post might seem “negative”, but “negative” is an aspect of life. Until you embrace that you’ll be running around thinking everything is suppose to be “positive”. That ain’t how life works.
Keep on loving, but realize that a part of loving is losing and it hurts. You will be in pain. You have to learn to embrace both the love and the pain of loving.
I heard the below last night on NPR’s Moth Radio Hour. It made me think of how we need to take the “clown” mask off our face and live our lives embracing both the “best of times and the worse of times”. We need to have compassion for ourselves and for others because everyone is “dealing” with something.
As the below will show you (be prepared it might bring up some strong emotions) sometimes you have to “man-up” and take life head-on — letting go of one thing after the other — until you get down to the core of who you are and what you’re made of.