Is It Really URGENT? Due Now? Why??? Folks Are Just Asking "Leaders" To Focus On What Is IMPORTANT.

The treatment from management and “leadership” isn’t fair and the demands are ridiculous. Especially being a commission paid employee.

~Worker Living in Missouri

Oh how crazy it feels to work in a place where there are “false urgencies”. 

Everything is due today. No…it’s due in an hour. Where is that e-mail? Did you get the report done? I need that PowerPoint Deck now! 

It’s exasperating when you KNOW that none of it is really important.   A month from now, a year from now and definitely five years from now NONE of this will matter. So…because we know this continue to bear the ridiculous demands from management for now. 

Take note and VOW that if or when you are in position of power NEVER to create “false urgencies” for your people.  Do not EVER forget how you feel under this unnecessary and undue pressure…never forget. Put a smile on your face today as you carry out these ridiculous demands. It will confuse them.

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

Release Fear and Doubt. Is Your Job Making You Miserable? Let Go to Let Come.

My current work conditions are not at all hostile and things could definitely be a lot worse.

My boss and co-workers are pleasant for the most part, and I understand that having good people to work with is half the battle. While these factors are tolerable and even attractive at times, the actual work I am doing is completely opposite of my interests/skills, and I am beyond the point of tolerance to where I can stand it.

I work at a bank as a banker- sales and customer service… and more sales.

When I took the job over a year ago, I thought that the job would be more analytical and research work (which is what my interests are), but no, sales and goals and quarterly quotas.

I am zero percent comfortable with pushing products onto customers and invading their personal lives and overcoming their objections. I personally cannot stand being sold to by a salesman, and that is what my position is.

It has gotten to the point where I have gone two straight quarters of not hitting quarterly sales goals/bonus, and it is because I do not even try any more to make sales or do the outbound calls that I am supposed to make. I cannot stand doing any of that.

My numbers have dropped so badly that the past couple of weeks have consisted of my boss monitoring every conversation I have with customers and making sure I make my calls. I know that he can tell my heart is not there.

I am not happy.

I go to work, I just surf on the internet, boss walks by, I try to look busy, and then back to surfing. I would much rather be at a job where I had actual busy work to do.  I cannot find any motivation to pick up the phone and sell something to someone or upsell products with customers in the branch.

This depressive work state has affected other areas of my life, including my overall mood, my relationship with my girlfriend, and other things.

I just feel worthless, bleak, and unaccomplished from getting no satisfaction out of my job.

I have enough money saved to live comfortably unemployed for 5-6 months, and if I live frugally for close to 9-12 months. I just graduated with my business degree this past May, I am 23, no children, a car payment/rent/phone bill, and a supportive girlfriend of 6 years.

I have a lot of opportunity to find something, because I don’t have a wife or kids to support at this point in time.

Quitting just feels right, but my only fear is what my parents/girlfriend/girlfriend’s parents will think. They may not share my same enthusiasm. And also, what if I do not find anything, and have a huge gap in my employment history? At the same time though, my performance has slipped so badly that it is basically a waiting game before I either quit or end up getting fired. If I continue any more at this rate, I may totally burn the bridge of having this employer as a good reference. I have been actively applying for multiple jobs a day for the past four months, but nothing yet.

We will see what ends up happening.

~Worker Living in MISSOURI

We have been so conditioned for so long not to be a quitter.

“Just Quit” is not about quitting because we have given up or because we can’t cut it…it’s about letting go of what we know for sure is not going to work for us. 

It might have worked for us at some point, but it’s not working for us now and whatever was working is gone. We know it’s gone. We have checked with our body, mind, soul and spirit and every checkpoint confirms that it is time to leave.

Then what happens? 

We make our plans and we work the Steps.  We know we are ready. 

Then what happens?

Fear and Doubt start their jobs on us.  We can linger right there in Fear and Doubt and miss out on the window of opportunity that was right there for us to make our exit.

Maybe that next door can’t open until you close this one.

Maybe this is a test to see if you can trust yourself. 

We have been conditioned to think that we have to see the open door before we close this one…not always…and especially not if it’s a test for you.

Either you are ready or you are not.  Trust yourself.

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

So now you ask…HOW do I release doubt and fear?HERE’S THE ANSWER

Peace Be Still. Learn To Calm Your Mind.

I don’t know anything about pharmaceuticals and nor do I care to ever know anything about formularies, drug coverage, eligibility, adjudication, group rolls, etc. I don’t enjoy kissing client’s as*es and speaking on things I’m clueless about.

I don’t like feeling like an idiot because I have received no training to effectively do my job. I must learn everything as I go…except everything changes as soon as I learn it…and I don’t give two d*mns about the things I’m learning. NO PASSION.

I HATE the meetings. I HATE the one-on-ones with my boss – bullshi**ing – my procrastination and my work. I hate the impossible work load and the deadlines that leaves you without a viable social life.

Even if I choose to not do work when I get home, it’s that achy and unsettling feeling at the bottom of my stomach and that heartburn taste in my mouth I get when I think about my job…it’s so time for me to “Just Quit”.        

~Worker Living in MISSOURI

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

Today, when you are not at work do not think about work.  If at any point today when you are not at work and you find yourself thinking about work;  refocus your mind by saying:

“Peace, be still”

Continue to say this until your mind is calm. Do not allow work to take over your mind, especially when you are not officially working (and getting paid).  

P.S.

This is NOT difficult to do. Just keep repeating the mantra…”peace be still”…or just “peace” whenever you start thinking about work when not at work.  Once you can control your mind you’re half way there.

 

You Are In Control Of Your Life. You Can Change It...Just Like That...

I am depressed at my current job.

I hate it and it is making me insane.

I have so much more to offer. 

I get talked down to and treated like crap by everyone who works there. 

I work with my ex, and my boss is an a**hole. It just kills me inside knowing I have to work there.

~Worker Living in MISSOURI

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

Why do we think we can’t make a change? 

Why do we feel so helpless and hopeless sometimes like we are stuck here in this place, dealing with it all?

We have to know that things will change. 

One day things will change. 

Things always change.  It is just a matter of time. 

While we are here, dealing with all that is this job, and this place, we will endure it for now because we know that it will change.

Things always change.

Getting Through The Day – Take Baby Steps

You are reading from the book  “Just Quit” & Live 

Q: Why do you want to quit your job EVEN if you don’t have another job lined-up?

Stress is making me physically ill. It’s harming my personal relationships and causing my life to stagnate as I feel too paralyzed to make any important decisions in my life.

~Worker Living in MISSOURI

Today’s Meditation:

Sometimes we feel paralyzed. 

We don’t know what to do. Maybe this is not the time to do anything. Sometimes we don’t need to make any big decisions until we can think clearly. The only thing we can do is make small decisions, take baby steps and just focus on making it though the day.

Celebrate that success. You made it through the day.

Just know that you really aren’t paralyzed.  You will be able to move again, you just need to take your time and give yourself time to work through these feelings.