Saturday, May 12, 2012

Let Go of Looking for Love

When love beckons to you, follow him, though his ways are hard and steep.

When his wings enfold you yield to him, though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. 

~Kahlil Gibran on Love

We search. We hope. We pray.  We believe.

We look to find someone “else” who will “really” love us.

Someone who will make us happy.

  Someone who will like to do the things that we like to do.

Someone who will support us.

Someone who will listen to us.

  Someone who will go through life with us.

We look.

We go here.  We go there.

We are looking for that special someone to love us.

Eventually we think that we are going to find that  person and it’s going to be the right fit.

It’s going to FEEL right.

It’s going to BE right.

It’s going to BE for life.

It’s going to BE the real thing.

We are finally going to find and BE in love.

YOU FINALLY FIND LOVE

So, let’s say that you do find love.  It works out.  You live together happily for 20 years.  Then that person dies.

Where are you?  Where are you now?

You are left with wonderful memories of your time with them.

You’re probably hurt that they are gone.  You miss them.  You’re glad that you had a chance to get to know them.  To love them.  To be loved by them. To share your life with them.  But they’re now gone.

 So, where are you?  You are alone, again.  You are with yourself, again. You are back where you started right before you first came into this world. You are where you will be when you leave this world.

You Must Love Yourself First

LOVE BEGINS WITH YOU

There is just no real way to ignore the fact that the first lesson in learning to love is to love yourself.

Get to know yourself.

  Be in love with you, with who you are, what you’re about.

  Someone will then always love you.

You will love you.

 There is no need to suffer or settle when it comes to love or looking for love.

  Once you discover the greatest love of all, and realize that it’s not just YOU that you are, but it’s greater than you, then everything starts to make sense — EVERYTHING.

Loving Yourself IS Loving God.

Loving Yourself IS Loving Your Neighbor.

 There’s no separation.  There is no isolation.  In the end there is only Love.

What if there were a love that was so grand and great that you could not escape from it?  There is – loving yourself and not listening to those voices in your head that tell you that you are un-loveable.

If you do find someone who shares this special understanding then let the awesome  journey begin, but it won’t be a struggle.  It will be natural and you will know they are the one.  There is an inner wisdom that will let you know.  The relationship will be founded and grounded  in Love, in the awesome process of Loving and being Beloved and Supported.

Let Go of The Need to Look Outside of Yourself for Love, Happiness and Fulfillment.  You will then open a space where those who can’t really love you (because they don’t love themselves) will fall away.  Somehow the universe will remove them without much effort on your part.  Don’t be afraid of being without them. Don’t worry,  your beloved is already here, your beloved loves themselves and therefore can love you with an intense, dynamic and unselfish love. 

You Must First Look Within 

That Is Where You Must Start In Order to Understand Love.

~Ridea Richardson 

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Letting Go Quotes

Letting Go Quotes

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning.”
~Lao Tzu~

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”
~Lao Tzu~

“When one door closes another door opens; but we so
often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed
door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”
~Alexander Graham Bell~

“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”
~Chinese Proverb~

“Nirvana means to extinguish the burning fires of the Three Poisons: greed, anger, and ignorance. This can be accomplished by letting go of dissatisfaction.”
~Shinjo Ito~

“Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.”
~Raymond Lindquist~

“Don’t let your mind bully your body into
believing it must carry the burden of its worries.”
~Astrid Alauda~

“Inner peace can be reached only when we practice
forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past,
and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions.”
~Gerald Jampolsky~

“Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of
something, loves something and has lost something.”
~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.~

“To sit with a dog on a hillside on a glorious afternoon is to be back in Eden, where doing nothing was not boring – it was peace.”
~Milan Kundera~

“There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go.”
~Jessica Hatchigan~

“You cannot let go of anything if you cannot notice
that you are holding it. Admit your ‘weaknesses’ and
watch them morph into your greatest strengths.”
~Neale Donald Walsch~

“Stress is an ignorant state.
It believes that everything is an emergency.”
~Natalie Goldberg~

“Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise
live rent-free in your head.”
~Ann Landers~

“To give up yourself without regret is the greatest charity.”
~Bodhidharma~

“I don’t let go of concepts – I meet them with understanding.
Then they let go of me.”
~Byron Katie~

“It is so conceited and timid to be ashamed of one’s mistakes.
Of course they are mistakes. Go on to the next.”
~Brenda Ueland~

“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment
is the only one you know you have for sure.”
~Oprah Winfrey~

“Think about any attachments that are depleting
your emotional reserves. Consider letting them go.”
~Oprah Winfrey~

“One problem with gazing too frequently into the past is
that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us.”
~Michael Cibenko~

“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering.
Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.”
~Thich Nhat Hanh~

“The farther behind I leave the past,
the closer I am to forging my own character.”
~Isabelle Eberhardt~

“Half of the confusion in the world comes from not knowing how
little we need. I live more simply now, and with more peace.”
~Richard Byrd~

“The sun, though it passes through dirty places,
yet remains as pure as before.”
~Francis Bacon~

“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.”
~Havelock Ellis~

“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up
on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”
~Anna Quindlen~

“Dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you’ll die today.”
~James Dean~

“When you’re passionate about something, you want it to be all
it can be. But in the endgame of life, I fundamentally believe
the key to happiness is letting go of that idea of perfection.”
~Debra Messing~

“Loving someone is setting them free, letting them go.”
~Kate Winslet~

“Every breath is an opportunity to receive and let go.
I receive love and I let go of pain.”
~Brenda MacIntyre~

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned,
so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.”
~Joseph Campbell~

“You can only lose what you cling to.”
~Buddha~

“Suffering is not holding you. You are holding suffering.
When you become good at the art of letting sufferings go,
then you’ll come to realize how unnecessary it was for you
to drag those burdens around with you. You’ll see that no
one else other than you was responsible. The truth is that
existence wants your life to become a festival.”
~Osho~

“Ask yourself this question:
“Will this matter a year from now?”
~Richard Carlson Ph.D~

“Art is nothing but the expression of our dream; the more we surrender to it the closer we get to the inner truth of things, our dream-life, the true life that scorns questions and does not see them.”
~Franz Marc~

“Creativity can be described as letting go of certainties.”
~Gail Sheehy~

“Celebrate whatever arises in consciousness
without clinging to anything.”
~Hale Dwoskin~

“To change skins, evolve into new cycles, I feel one has to learn to discard. If one changes internally, one should not continue to live with the same objects. They reflect one’s mind and the psyche of yesterday. I throw away what has no dynamic, living use.”
~Anaïs Nin~

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong;
but sometimes it is letting go.”
~Herman Hesse~

“You can’t hold a man down without staying down with him.
~Booker T. Washington~

“Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them;
but do not let them master you.
Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight.
~Helen Keller~

“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do
about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why
hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”
~Leo Buscaglia~

“You have been warned against letting the golden hours slip by.
Yes, but some of them are golden only because we let them slip by.”
~James Matthew Barrie~

“Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing.
There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow
people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a
time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.”
~Gloria Naylor~

“The harder you fight to hold on to specific assumptions,
the more likely there’s gold in letting go of them.”
~John Seely Brown~

“Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It
means full acceptance, even celebration of another’s personhood.”
~Karen Casey~

“It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease.
Hack away at the unessential.”
~Bruce Lee~

“Absorb what is useful. Discard what is not.
Add what is uniquely your own.”
~Bruce Lee~

“The field of consciousness is tiny.
It accepts only one problem at a time.”
~Antoine de Saint-Exupery~

“Letting your mind play is the best way to solve problems.”
~Bill Watterson~

“If you surrender completely to the moments as they pass,
you live more richly those moments.
~Anne Morrow Lindbergh~

“When you become good at the art of letting sufferings go,
then you’ll come to realize what you were dragging around with you.
And for that, no one else other than you was responsible.”
~Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh~

Saturday, April 28, 2012

Why Do We Hold On?

Why Do We Hold On  –  When There is Nothing There?

Why Do We Keep Forgetting – This Is Not What We Want?

Why Do We Keep Telling Ourselves –  It’s Something That It’s Not?

 Beauty of Letting Go

Why Can’t We Just Admit Things Have Changed?

Why Can’t We Accept That Everything Changes?

Why Not Just Let Go?

Because It’s Hard To Accept That Things Have Changed.

Because It’s Hard To Accept That We Have to Move On.

Because It’s Hard To Accept That The Ending Is Here

& It Aint What We Thought It Would Be.

So We Hold On…So We Hope… So We Pray…So We Believe…

What?…Things Will Change Back….Things Will Be Different…So…We Just Hold On…Until…It Ends…It Always Ends.

Everything Always Ends.

Learn to Let Go When You KNOW You Need to Let Go

  Not When You HAVE to Let Go

You Can’t Hold On. 

Life Is About Change and Change is About Letting Go,

Not Holding On.

By Ridea Richardson

Sunday, April 15, 2012

Letting Go Isn't Easy At All

 

 

 

Letting Go is Painful

&

It Hurts.

No one really wants to Let Go,

because

Letting Go is about Change.

Letting Go is a part of Life.

It is not easy,

but necessary.

Let go of the need to control,

to hold on to relationships

that aren’t about love,

to hold on to people

who aren’t good for you,

to hold on when you know

it’s basically over or coming to an end,

to hold on only to be with someone…

being alone works too!

Let Go…Just Let Go!

 

Monday, April 2, 2012

Let Go of Trying to Control Your Thoughts

Just let your thoughts happen.

Just watch them like you are watching television. “Oh, look at that it was a thought.” Ping

Your mind is CONSTANTLY thinking.  That voice in your head thinks it runs the show.  It really does.  We have given it so much power that we might believe that it runs the show as well.

YOU ARE NOT YOUR BRAIN.  You are not what you are thinking.  You know this because of the hundreds, thousands even, of senseless thoughts that run across your mind. It NEVER ends. It NEVER will.  SO…just enjoy the journey.

Observe Your Thoughts
Observe Your Thoughts

Can you control your thoughts?  Yes, you can – with breathing techniques, various meditations and other practices.  Which of course all require some thought.  You really can’t escape your mind and thinking, so don’t struggle against it, just observe it and allow it to do its thing – for now. It has been doing it’s thing all along while you’ve been living unconsciously, but now with observation it will prove to be an interesting exercise. It will be like your mind is on trial.  It’s going to hate that…because it’s been running amok for so long without being put in check.

Once you can be comfortable with NOT TRYING to control your thoughts, naturally, your thoughts, especially the negative ones will start to become fewer and fewer.  All those fears of what could happen, what might happen, what should have happened will seem so silly.

As your negative thoughts start to ebb away, your life will become calmer and more in line with your purpose or reason for being here.  You’ll know when it starts to happen because you will have loped off people, places and things that are misaligned and causing you negative emotions and energy.  It will be like scales falling away from you.  Those people, places, things will just seem foreign to you.  You’ll find that you can unattached yourself without a great deal of struggle and strive.

It all starts with just observing your thinking.  DON’T THINK ABOUT IT,  JUST OBSERVE.  You will quickly realize that it is the “monkey mind” that you are observing and it’s completely senseless and NOT who you really are.

Keep on thinking all your thoughts. 

The only thing to do now is to just observe them like you are watching them from outside of yourself.  

Have fun…don’t make it a job description…just sit down and observe the voice in your head…

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Let Go of The Heavy Burden - Let Come Your Life That Wants To Unfold

Once you realize that the universe is able and WILLING to give you want you need, who you need, when you need it and what it gives to you will fulfill all of your needs (not some of your needs, but ALL of your needs)  there is no longer any worrying about the future or regretting the past.  You can live in the now.  Now, is really is all there is. This present moment really is a wonderful moment.  This moment, right here, right now.

Letting Go is a Relief

Haven’t you experienced that when you let go of something that, or someone who “seemed” so hard (impossible even)  to let go of that when you finally do, it is a relief.  It is like a burden that you were carrying around with you that was so

Heavy Burden
Heavy Burden

unnecessary.  Just imagine carrying a heavy load on your shoulders that is weighing you down.  Then you realize that all you have to do is to put the heavy load down on the ground then you can move on more freely and at ease.   You wonder why you felt it necessary to  “hold on”  or “keep probing up” the familiar that wasn’t working for you and was completely out of alignment with what you needed or wanted.

No matter how many things, people or places you’ve learned to let go of, letting go it is still a process that takes practice.

Just Let Life Happen – Stop Struggling

Just let life flow and let things come to you that are meant for you. Be in alignment with what the universe wants to give to you.  Don’t struggle and go against the grain of the flow of life.  Life really isn’t a struggle.  You may think that it is.  It might be difficult dealing with people, family , friends, and loved ones but in the final analysis life is what you make it to be.  Life is really a gift to you, to experience life.  Just stop. Just breathe. There are people all over the world that are being asked to leave this earth and they would give anything for another day to breathe, to love and to live.  If you are reading this you are still alive and you have another moment.  Just breathe in and breathe out.  Feel how it feels to be in your body.  Appreciate that!

How Will You Know When You Need To Let Go?

When you start releasing the load and things start to unfold, people come that wouldn’t have come otherwise, someone emails you that you haven’t heard from in years, things happen that show you the way, a picture starts to unfold on the blank canvas, and the fog clears.  All that holding on to what wasn’t for you or who wasn’t for you dissolves and you know that letting go and living in the present moment is all there is and you’re using the keys that have unlocked the pathway to living a joyful life  – which is your natural state and you feel wonderful and grateful just to be alive.

 

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Letting Go Is A LifeLong Process

So…you’re learning how to let go – congratulations…

Maybe you can chalk up many past success stories of letting go BEFORE you have to.

Most everyone has let go of something/someone, but it’s usually AFTER they HAVE to let go, and have held on TOO long.

But…maybe you’re a pro at it (or think that you are) because you  have been doing it over the years.

You’ve mastered letting go…right?Mastering Letting Go

Well… there’s good news and bad news…

Good News…Keep up the good work, because you’re on the right track now.

Bad News…Some of the stuff from the track that you were on, may come back at you like a freight train out of nowhere!

You can’t run away from your past.

It’s a part of you. It’s makes you who you are.

You have to come to terms with your past decisions, actions, and the repercussions from those actions.

It could be things that you’ve done, said, covered-up, forgotten about that are still lingering on because although you’ve let go and  moved on, it’s still in you, and in your thought patterns.

The ripples effects of your actions are still in the universe and might reverberate back to you.

Maybe someone says something, doesn’t say something, looks a certain way that makes you remember that thing, person, place, or thought that you’ve already let go of. It takes you back.  It KNOCKS you back.  That’s okay.  Just know that it’s okay.

Deal with whatever comes up, take a look at it, talk about it if you have to,or  if you find someone who can understand this journey that you’re on. Just know that it’s something else that you have to let go of.

In order to let go of some lingering things you might have  to make amends, apologize, make a phone call, find the person you need to talk to in order to truly let go.

Once you feel that thing (Oh no! What is this? I thought I’d dealt with this!) come back up…don’t ignore it, just deal with it.

Just suspend it out in front of you and see what you need to do next.

Don’t judge yourself.

Don’t be hard on yourself, because you thought you’d dealt with ALL the issues surrounding whatever it is.

Just suspend it in front of you and be grateful for the fact that it’s come up.

You needed it to come up.

Sometimes we want it to go away. Just ignore it.  We might be looking for that person to make it better, someone who will listen to our story.  Sometimes that person is there and sometimes they aren’t.  Sometimes there is really no one who can truly understand.  Not right at that current time. You realize that you need to be there for yourself and help yourself figure it out.  That’s okay too, because it is y-o-u-r journey.  No worries.

When this happens it does make you look at exactly where you are today.

If nothing else it makes you not be satisfied with what you’ve let go of in the past.

It is clear that you have to live your life now, in the present moment.

You know that there is more work to be done, there’s more progress to be made, and more to let go of.

Why?  Because there is more to come!

Don’t rest on your laurels, because you caught the big Merlin 10 years ago.

Today is today…what do you need to let go of today in order to let come the future that wants to emerge? (It might just be some residuals of something from 10 years ago that found it way back into your awareness…it is okay…keep going!)