Release Fear and Doubt. Is Your Job Making You Miserable? Let Go to Let Come.

My current work conditions are not at all hostile and things could definitely be a lot worse.

My boss and co-workers are pleasant for the most part, and I understand that having good people to work with is half the battle. While these factors are tolerable and even attractive at times, the actual work I am doing is completely opposite of my interests/skills, and I am beyond the point of tolerance to where I can stand it.

I work at a bank as a banker- sales and customer service… and more sales.

When I took the job over a year ago, I thought that the job would be more analytical and research work (which is what my interests are), but no, sales and goals and quarterly quotas.

I am zero percent comfortable with pushing products onto customers and invading their personal lives and overcoming their objections. I personally cannot stand being sold to by a salesman, and that is what my position is.

It has gotten to the point where I have gone two straight quarters of not hitting quarterly sales goals/bonus, and it is because I do not even try any more to make sales or do the outbound calls that I am supposed to make. I cannot stand doing any of that.

My numbers have dropped so badly that the past couple of weeks have consisted of my boss monitoring every conversation I have with customers and making sure I make my calls. I know that he can tell my heart is not there.

I am not happy.

I go to work, I just surf on the internet, boss walks by, I try to look busy, and then back to surfing. I would much rather be at a job where I had actual busy work to do.  I cannot find any motivation to pick up the phone and sell something to someone or upsell products with customers in the branch.

This depressive work state has affected other areas of my life, including my overall mood, my relationship with my girlfriend, and other things.

I just feel worthless, bleak, and unaccomplished from getting no satisfaction out of my job.

I have enough money saved to live comfortably unemployed for 5-6 months, and if I live frugally for close to 9-12 months. I just graduated with my business degree this past May, I am 23, no children, a car payment/rent/phone bill, and a supportive girlfriend of 6 years.

I have a lot of opportunity to find something, because I don’t have a wife or kids to support at this point in time.

Quitting just feels right, but my only fear is what my parents/girlfriend/girlfriend’s parents will think. They may not share my same enthusiasm. And also, what if I do not find anything, and have a huge gap in my employment history? At the same time though, my performance has slipped so badly that it is basically a waiting game before I either quit or end up getting fired. If I continue any more at this rate, I may totally burn the bridge of having this employer as a good reference. I have been actively applying for multiple jobs a day for the past four months, but nothing yet.

We will see what ends up happening.

~Worker Living in MISSOURI

We have been so conditioned for so long not to be a quitter.

“Just Quit” is not about quitting because we have given up or because we can’t cut it…it’s about letting go of what we know for sure is not going to work for us. 

It might have worked for us at some point, but it’s not working for us now and whatever was working is gone. We know it’s gone. We have checked with our body, mind, soul and spirit and every checkpoint confirms that it is time to leave.

Then what happens? 

We make our plans and we work the Steps.  We know we are ready. 

Then what happens?

Fear and Doubt start their jobs on us.  We can linger right there in Fear and Doubt and miss out on the window of opportunity that was right there for us to make our exit.

Maybe that next door can’t open until you close this one.

Maybe this is a test to see if you can trust yourself. 

We have been conditioned to think that we have to see the open door before we close this one…not always…and especially not if it’s a test for you.

Either you are ready or you are not.  Trust yourself.

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So now you ask…HOW do I release doubt and fear?HERE’S THE ANSWER

Another Work Week To Face. Depressed? Don't Give Up.

I’m depressed, anxious, stressed, and contemplate suicide at work.

I’m physically sick from the depression, anxiety and stress, and being sick at work only makes the mental problems worse, which starts a cycle.

My boss is an a**hole with unrealistic demands.

I have to do all of my work, plus extra, plus clean up my co-worker’s half-a**ed job.

~Worker Living in MARYLAND

 

Today, seek help for your depression if you are contemplating suicide because of your job. 

Tell someone that you need help.  

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There is some interesting scientifically based therapy that is part of what is being called the “third wave” in behavioral and cognitive therapy.  It is called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or ACT.

ACT is based on how the human mind works.

It can help you with the suffering and pain you may feel on Sunday’s as you face another work week. It teaches you how to use Mindfulness, Acceptance and Values to deal with suffering and pain.

Below is a good workbook  – Get Out of Your Mind and into Your Life

Today, Be Healthy, Eat Healthy, and Think Healthy

I’m miserable and not meeting objectives by some senior people’s standards. 

I’m super tired and frustrated so much so that I cannot be there for my 3 year old the way I’d like.

I’m feeling detached. 

My skin is always itching (strange) and my face and hair look kinda lifeless to me.

I don’t think the job or work is a good fit and the people I’m around are petty.

I’ve been through a divorce and unemployment in the past two years. I’m drained and just want to sleep a while with no fuss.

~Worker Living in ILLINOIS

Our health is our first wealth. 

Today, be healthy, eat healthy, and think healthy.

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When You "Just Quit" Do So Responsibly...Because Life Is An Echo

I’m planning to move to another state and landing a job is taking longer than expected.

I really dislike the nature of my current job. Most of my co-workers are great and have become good friends, but the nature of the work makes me hate my life.

In addition, busy season is coming up (I’m a public accountant) and I want to get out before it hits. This is because I obviously hate busy season even more, but I also want to give my bosses time to reschedule people in my absence.

~Worker Living in COLORADO

Although we know we are miserable, and are actively planning our exits, we can still be responsible.

We might hate what we are doing on this job; but we can still be respectful to our employers, co-workers and clients.

We can give proper notice and leave at a down-time.

We can be responsible when we “Just Quit”.

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When Your Intuition is Roaring...Listen To It

It is toxic. 

My micromanagement boss told me it is his way or no way at all and he is doing everything possible to put me in the wrong direction and says so with a happy face.

Toxic!!!!!!!!!!!!

~Worker Living in NEW YORK

Today, realize that you know what is best.

If you are in a toxic workplace and you listen to yourself; you will know what to do to survive or to get out.

You know what is best. You do.

Just trust your intuition.

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Life is Too Short to Do Work That’s Not Real and Doesn’t Matter

OCTOBER

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.

 ~ Albert Einstein

The job is a joke. It pays good money but the work is meaningless.

I visit schools that don’t want me there and some actively encourage me NOT to come so much so that at times I don’t go and say I did — which makes me feel terrible about myself. Other places let me come and give me work, but the work is minimal – and for the most part has no or only short term outcomes.

I post school visit notes on a website that is named for a division that no longer exists, that the customer has never heard of and that was elaborately designed for a product I don’t deliver and the customer knows nothing about. The customer prefers an email. So…. it’s like I write these notes two to three times and sometimes for visits that didn’t take place. This is common practice among people in my position, but that is cold comfort.

I am required to run a national network and have monthly Google hangouts. So many people have quit or been fired that there are only 2 members left in my group.

I am writing a mystery novel — I have published several short stories on line and have a small fan base — and I steal as much time as I can for this endeavor. I have applied for and interviewed for jobs, but to no avail.

I am miserable. 

~Worker Living in ARIZONA

Some of our jobs aren’t real jobs.

They are “fake” jobs.

You can either go-along or get-out.

Thank your lucky stars if your integrity will no longer allow you to continue to fake it.

Life is too short to do work that’s not real and doesn’t matter.

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Self-Made or Never Made...What's It Going To Be?

Because I do not feel fulfilled.

I do not feel I am living my purpose.

Furthermore, I am fed up with management treating professional adults like elementary kids.

I feel I will be free for the opportunities to flow my way.

~Worker Living in CALIFORNIA

Step 11 – Living our purpose.

When we start living our purpose for being then opportunity will start flowing our way. 

Doors will open.

Ideas will come.

People will appear. 

The possibilities will seem endless.

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