Stop Being "Nice" (a.k.a. Stupid) and Get Real About Your Career Situation

Retail drains me! It isn’t a career; it’s merely a survival job.

I’ve had enough of rude management, rude associates and most of all rude customers.

The only thing that is good is that I get paid weekly. Otherwise, there’s no reason for me to stay since there are mostly cons: I’m physically sore in my hips. Sometimes my feet really get wrecked. Stupid, juvenile coworkers who mainly live on the Southside. They need this job because they have kids or a man they gotta take care of (another kid!).

Subpar training. You’re expected to know everything when they themselves don’t know sh*t. Monotonous, boring work. Saying and doing the same things all the time with no real excitement. Being phony-nice. I USED to be nice. Marshalls changed that. Putting on the phony nice girl act shows how unhappy I really am.

Now I barely get there on time. It’s over.

I’m so miserable at my job, it’s affecting my health. I feel trapped and stagnant and KNOW this is not how my life is supposed to be.

~Worker Living in NEW YORK

Look up the Etymology of nice….STOP being “nice”.

There comes a time when we KNOW that we need to change. Usually this happens when our misery starts to impact our health.

It doesn’t have to get to this point but when it does we have to get real with ourselves. No more being “phony-nice”. 

We have to take action and do something.  We can live the lives we’ve imagined…we just have to start. 

Refuse To Settle...Or Make The Best of It...Or Stick It Out...In An Abusive Workplace

In the realistic and financial scheme of things, I have the luxury to just walk away from this job because I have no obligations nor do I pay any bills.

In the emotional and meaningful scheme of things, I have no desire to work for, make better, or help this company PERIOD. The attitudes and points of view of my uppers are never going to change, so the retail side will NEVER change = Nothing will progress or be bettered. I have a problem “sticking it out” with a company that has no REAL future.

My work is not challenging. It’s not like what I had imagined. My boss is obsessed with putting me in the front lines, memorizing recipes and making drinks better than the store managers, but that’s not REALLY my role. (I wonder if this happens with other companies).

Lastly, my boss is the devil himself reincarnated onto Earth. He is the most negative and self- absorbed person I have ever met in my life. He has the ability to make me feel sick and want to stab myself in the eye with a dull pencil at the same time. No one has ever had that effect on me. Because of his negativity, the work environment is just CRAP. It’s toxic, at best.

It is past the point of trying to “make the best” of my situation. There really is no making it better — it is what it is and I refuse to settle for that. I do not ever want to settle for misery. I am passionate, young, a hard worker, and INTELLIGENT. I expect to be utilized, for my work to be meaningful, and for the job environment to be nurturing or at least bearable at the very least.

~Worker Living in CALIFORNIA

Times are changing. The sooner organizations realize that there is a generation of workers that are in the workforce who: “refuse to settle” or “make the best of it” or “stick it out” in jobs that are not fulfilling or where they feel abused; then the sooner workplaces will be places of productivity.

It is time for organizations to wake up. 

If you are a business owner or responsible for recruiting and hiring talent then be aware that your BEST talent is walking out the door. They might not be walking out the door to another “job”, but to a freelance opportunity or to start their own company.  Maybe it’s something that is so creative it will disrupt your industry.

Talent is walking because they don’t HAVE to take it anymore. 

If you are one of these young and talented workers and you KNOW it, then it’s time to act. Don’t look back. The old models of work are broken.  You don’t have to continue to stay stuck in a dead-end job working for a jerk. There are plenty of other opportunities for you.  Not only are future generations counting on you, but your parent’s generation is as well. It is your generation that is bringing forth a new way to show how it is possible for everyone to pursue their passions and still make a profit. 

These are exciting times in the world of work.    

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Start From Where You Are, Determine Your General Direction...Set Sail

My boss is evil; she punished me because I was forced to take FMLA leave and when I returned, I was moved to another position with terrible hours.

I hate the new job and have no respect for my boss.

If I return, I will say something I can’t take back.

My benefits are really good, and I don’t have much money saved, but I have a husband who works.

~Worker living in NEVADA

We all have different situations and issues that we are dealing with.

Some issues are very serious and some are manageable.

We need to look at our own situations and start from where we are, determine the general direction we want to go in and prepare to set sail in that direction. 

Yes, Change Is Hard...Now, What Are You Going To Do?

I’m ready to move on. I’ve been at this organization over five years and have learned a lot, had some amazing experiences and helped to build new departments, but I am in need of a change.

I’m quitting because I want to spend more time exploring what this change could look like for me.

~Worker Living in ILLINOIS

Whether you initiate it or not a change is GOING to come. 

Change is what life is about. 

Eventually something is going to change: your job, your boss, your co-workers, whatever you service or sale, or your job duties.  One way or the other, something is going to change.

It’s now just a matter of how active you are going to be in the change that is going to come.  You can sit back and chill or you can decide to take control and explore what you want the change to look like. 

It’s just a decision.

Just Quit Means You HAVE To Face Your Fears

I drive 120 miles a day round trip. I dread every mile.

I get quilted out of taking my lunch breaks on a near daily basis.

I feel sick with dread and stress and truly fear for my health.

The money doesn’t justify the expense of my commute and child care costs. 

~Worker Living in GEORGIA

Dread and stress are a terrible combination but they go together like a hand and glove.

Dread is just another word for fear.  Fear will keep us small. Fear will keep us driving 120 miles round trip.  Fear will keep us feeling guilty.

We have to face our fears.  We do. 

We have to stand up to them like standing up to a bully.  Stare our fears down.  Name them.  What exactly are we afraid of? Losing our jobs (we hate)…not having money to pay our bills…being without a job for a period of time…feeling like a failure…no longer having an identity because we don’t have a job title…

Today, just take the time to write down and name what you are afraid of AND then meditate on each one of those fears.  Play them out in your mind. Just totally allow yourself to play those fears out. 

Here is what you will find and figure out…fear is just another emotion.  If you want to take control of your life then you are going to have to learn to face your fears and be FEARLESS.

Just Quit Is A Process...It Takes Time

I’m going through periods of what the f@£k am I doing to feeling confident of my decision.

~Worker Living in the UNITED KINGDOM

“Just Quit” is a process.

You will go back and forth at first wondering if you are crazy to even contemplate quitting your job without another one, and then feeling confident in your decision. 

Just allow this process to play itself out.  It might take some of us months and others years; it just depends on our particular situations.  In the meantime another job might present itself or things might get better on our current jobs. 

No matter what happens the point is to work the steps so that at ANY point in your life that you DECIDE to “Just Quit” this or any other job  — you can.

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Marking Your Just Quit Date...

My boss is being an absolute tyrant towards me.

He pinpoints every mistake that I make. And when my only other colleague does the same mistakes he just shrugs it off and makes no big deal out of it.

He is always arrowing at me. He’s an absolutely bad leader who doesn’t know how to manage his subordinates well and his words are cut-throat. This is the last straw for me.

I’ve finally put on the calendar my QUIT DAY.

~Worker Living in SINGAPORE

Are we there yet?

Have we taken Step 8 and marked our calendars with our “Just Quit” date?

It can be as far out as you need for it to be, but it needs to be a commitment.

It’s almost like you are your own boss and you’ve decided that you need to lay yourself off.

If you have gone through all the “Just Quit” Steps then you’ll have at least six months of money saved or have access to enough funds.  You’ll be able to eat and pay all your bills for the next six months, just like you were getting unemployment funds.

What’s the difference other than YOU made the decision?

Just imagine that you are SO prepared and SURE of your decision that you are happy and excited as you count down the days on the calendar.

You have a plan for what you will do after you “Just Quit”.  You don’t know exactly how your plan will work out, or when it will work out, but you KNOW it WILL work out.

This is NOT a joke, it can be a reality.

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live