You may be having a bad morning, a bad week, or a bad year for that matter.
Don’t Give Up.
You may be depressed. You may feel flat. You may feel weak. You may feel like you can’t go on.
Don’t Give Up.
It might be hard. You may feel hopeless. You may not want to get out of the bed.
Don’t Give Up.
You have come this far.
You have endured so much.
You will make it through this time in your life.
Don’t Give Up.
Think back…you’ve been through tough times before. You made it through.
You know this too shall pass.
Just Don’t Give Up.
~Ridea Richardson
(Even if you have to find and paint a teeny tiny rock and write the words “Don’t Give Up” on it as a reminder…Just Keep Going, Things Will Work Out, There is a Plan, The Plan is Good, It’s Better Than You Think…Don’t Give Up…)
Fear is not real. Fear is how you “feel” and feelings are not Facts. Feelings come and go.
Letting go and moving on is hard. It is difficult. It is painful. I don’t care if you KNOW you need to let go of your dead-end job, your toxic relationship or your addictions and unhealthy behaviors…IT DOESN’T JUST HAPPEN. It is a process, and it can be a very difficult process.
At some point you have to take full responsibility for your life and your decisions. Forget about the story that you are telling yourself in your head about how you got to where you are today. Stop beating yourself up. You are where you are. That is a fact. Just start from where you are right now — even if it is a crazy bad place and ask yourself:
1. What do I want?
2. What do I deserve? (Not what you “feel” you deserve – that will just take you down another rabbit hole.)
3. What is the worst thing that could happen if I let go/if I move on?
You can stay stuck or you can move on.
Moving on is not going to be what you have today, but you don’t know what it will actually be. That is the dilemma of letting go. I read somewhere to always and only visualize the end result, not the process. Visualizing the process can drive you crazy because there are so many pieces that need to fit into place. You can’t control all of that. You have to just take for granted that:
even though you don’t know the plan…the plan is good…
Just figure out what you want and visualize the picture of the end result and let the universe get you there. You will know as you start this travel to your destination if the sign post along the way are getting you to your end result. You may have to make course corrections along the way, but you have to know where you want to go.
Now, expect and wait for, the VOICES IN YOUR HEAD to start their job.
You know the voices I’m talking about. The ones that say:
1. This will never work out.
2. I’ve tried this 100 times what makes me think this time will be different?
3. This is too hard. Why is life so hard?
…and on the voices will go…just listen to them, but know that they are just the gatekeepers. EVERYBODY has those same small voices in their head, but it’s only those people who get beyond the gatekeepers that actually realize their true potential. KNOCK THOSE GATES DOWN. It starts with the gatekeeper called FEAR…fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of the future…
Fear is a prison of the mind.
“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.” ~ M. Scott Peck
Neuroscience Research about the power of breathing rhythmically while focusing on your heart.
It’s a long video, but it’s worth it. It’s information that “you don’t know, that you don’t know”. He talks about the difference between emotions, feelings and thoughts . He explains that emotions are energy in motion and where that energy is coming from… the organs of your body…primarily your heart. He basically answers some of the “why” questions regarding behavior and performance.
Knowing that everything happens in its own time and at the right time.
Knowing that you are not alone, there are others going through something too.
Knowing that one day you will have to REMEMBER how miserable you were today. (You won’t be able to really remember it fully once it’s over, so chill out as you go into next week. This too shall end.)
Knowing that there have been many other situations in life where you couldn’t see a way out and a way appeared. Think back…
Knowing that No-thing stays the same. Everything changes and always will.
Everything happens in its own time, on time, and in time.
My Mama Used To Say: “God’s Time is a Good Time.” Your timing may not be the right time. Your timing may not fit into the grander plan. The sacred plan for your life. Let go of thinking it has to happen when and how your mind is telling you is the “right” time.
Whatever happens; “good” or “bad”; happens based on the flow of life. Life flows, ebbs or wanes, just like the ocean. Things come and go. People come and go. People who come, people who go, all come and go in their own time. Things that come, things that go, all come and go in its own time. Beliefs, Dreams, Hopes, Fears, come and go…you know this, because you’ve experienced all of these things coming and going.
Just release the need and suffering of thinking that this experience of life that you have been given has to happen how you think it should. If you are not aligned with who you really are, with what you should be doing, where you should be, who you should be with, then don’t expect the universe to put things in place the way you THINK that it should. It won’t. It can’t. It’s always trying to get you to wake up and live consciously and get aligned with your true nature. In order to get aligned you have to do the inner work — the hard stuff — to get in alignment with YOUR flow of life. Not anyone elses, but your own. Once you are in that flow then everything starts to make sense. You realize not to stress on the timing of things, you relax and are grateful because you recognize that NOW is a good time.
Enjoy what is happening right now. Enjoy who is in your life right now. Enjoy the places that you go right now. Enjoy the house that you are living in right now. Enjoy the job that you have right now. Enjoy the hopes of the job you want, right now, not when you actually get it, but right now. Enjoy the car that you are driving right now. Enjoy the shift that you are working on right now. Enjoy the person you are married to right now. Enjoy your children at the age they are right now. Enjoy the new product that you found. Enjoy the new store that you found. Enjoy the new website you stumbled on. Enjoy the new person that you met. Enjoy your life.
Just enjoy your life…because your life is happening, right NOW…as Mama Use to Say…
Okay, so you want others to know what we you are doing.
When you get the question: “Hey, what have you been up to?”
You want them to support you.
You want them to be a part of what you’re doing.
You want their opinions.
You want their suggestions.
You want their ideas.
You want them involved.
They can be involved, they can give you their ideas, suggestions, and opinions, BUT you don’t need them to validate you or validate what you are doing. Why? Because sometimes it doesn’t matter if they think it makes any sense; if it’s gonna work; if it’s a good use of your time; if it’s the right degree for you to get; if it’s the next job that you should take; or the next town that you should move to; or even the next person that you should marry — sometimes — you just know!
It might be just every now and again that this happens, but once you are in alignment with life, love, God, The Source, (call it what you want), things start to change at a rapid pace. You begin to realize that “that” something inside of you, already knows. It just knows. It’s always known and finally you’re listening to that source of information.
In the Flow
It’s like a little window opens in you mind, or your heart, or somewhere and you just know.
You can’t explain it.
You don’t understand it.
It makes no sense, even to you.
You do start to wonder exactly where everything is coming from.
Where the decisions are coming from.
Where the creatively is coming from.
Where the courage is coming from.
Where the words are coming from.
All you can do is flow with the process that is unfolding through you. All you can do is go with it. You do something one day and the next day look back at what you created or wrote and wonder…who did that? I didn’t do that. I really didn’t do that.
It can bring you to tears when you’re in that flow – at peak performance – in the groove.
You can now easily recognize others that are in that same flow.
When you connect with them and talk with them it’s almost as though there is a direct connection or recognition.
It’s like you’re with yourself.
It’s not competition, it’s cooperation.
It’s not judgment, it’s filling in the empty spaces.
It’s a smile, it’s a look, it’s a feeling, it’s an energy.
Those on the same wave-length are aware of each other.
It seems somehow that once you let go and allow this energy to flow that more doors and windows seem to open.
That more things come to you that you’ve been looking for, sometimes for years.
That more people call that can help you. They help you as though they are helping themselves. They don’t have to validate you, they just help, they just add value, they are apart of this space that just flows.
It’s a an amazing space to be in…and…when you get to that space — those who AREN’T in that space start to fall away…go away…fade away…and letting them go just seems natural — they aren’t part of the flow —- NOT YET.
In order to find your way in your career or in life you need to stop “trying” and “struggling” to figure it all out. I know this is easier said than done when you are miserable. What you will find is the more you struggle the more of a struggle it will be.
Just know that things will work out…in time…and…on time. That is the rub, you have to wait. Rushing things doesn’t help.
Fighting against what IS definitely doesn’t help. It’s a real mystery but when you embrace the suck of life then and only then do things start to fall into place.
You learn how to work through the pain that you are experiencing.
You start to look at it differently because you know that it is not permanent.
If you can learn to just experience the pain of your job or what’s happening in your life, you will find that you can and will survive.
Just experience it. It will end. Everything ends. Good times end and so will these challenging times.
We will find our way. We will all find our way. Embrace the current situation.
