Just Quit Living in Hell When You've Seen A Glimpse of Heaven

There are some relationships that are like living in hell.

• ~They are painful.

• ~We don’t grow when we are in them.

• ~They make us feel sad.

We wonder how we ended up in them and wonder still yet how to get out of them.

It’s worse when you discover a new relationship that feels great.

• ~Feels Comfortable.

• ~Feels Right.

• ~Feels like Heaven.

So you have to ask yourself – – –

• ~Do you stay in hell, when you know that you could go to heaven?

• ~If you stay in hell, why you are staying there?  Is it because it’s painful,but the known?

• ~Are you are willing to give up the familiar for the hopes of heaven? (You really don’t know FOR SURE that the new relationship will be heaven — you might end up being back in hell)

Maybe this is when all you can do is JUST QUIT the one relationship that you know FOR SURE is hell.

Have the fortitude and courage to face the pain of ending something that is not working.

Claim Your Power.

The Power to JUST QUIT

If you never JUST QUIT the “hell” relationship

you know FOR SURE that you will never enjoy the “heaven” one.

Life is what we make it.

Always has been, always will be.

 ~Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

To Just Quit Takes Love and Courage

 

(I found the below somewhere on the web…

but it didn’t have any byline…it’s not mine..but it’s really good)

 

To let go does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To let go is not to enable,
but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
it’s to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective,
it’s to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fearless, love more and have courage

Just Quit Living With a Broken Heart

 

How many times has your heart been broken and you’ve turned the other way?

How many times have you said to yourself that it doesn’t matter what someone did, didn’t do, said or didn’t say?

How many times have you told yourself how strong you are?

How many times have you thought about what you should have said or done when someone hurt you, but you didn’t say it or do it?

How many times have you played past hurts over and over  and over again in you mind?

How many times have you gotten to the point where you can’t even remember the hurt or the pain because it’s so far down and you’ve suppressed it?

How many times have you wondered if something “actually happened”, because it hurt you so badly and you’re blocking it out?

When are you going to deal with all the ways, things, and people who have hurt you?

How are you going to deal with it?

Are you going to deal with it?

How do you put your heart back together and become open again to love and relationships?

Isn’t it time to Just Quit Living With a Broken Heart?

Isn’t it time to Let Go of the hurts and the pains of the past?

Isn’t it time to Let Go of those who have hurt you, or brought you pain?

Isn’t it time to heal?  How can you heal your heart?

Isn’t it time to Let Go of the fears and the doubts of opening up to love again?

 If now isn’t the time  – then when is?

When You Just Quit Living Will There Be A Soul's Graduation?

HOPI PRAYER of  The Soul’s Graduation

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there,
I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight
On the ripened grain.
I am the gentle Autumn’s rain.
When you awaken in the morning hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there.
I did not die.
My Spirit is still alive…

This was on the back on the funeral program of a man who lived a well-lived life.  He made a difference in the lives of others.  He left love and wonderful memories over the course of his life.

Before we get to the end of our life we still have time to ask ourselves what is one thing that we need to Just Quit so we can live a well-lived life.  The more I think about his  life the more I know the one thing that he Just Quit doing was being selfish.  He gave of his time, his resources, his wisdom and his love.  He did it seemingly effortlessly but I know that it wasn’t because it’s not easy to care about other people.

His spirit is still alive in those who had the honor of knowing him – Mr. William Kennedy Lane, Jr.  –  what a privilege.

How can you live the type of life where people will drive miles, cry at your funeral and remember you fondly?

Will people be able to say that you lived a well-lived life?

Just Quit Staying in Unhealthy Relationships

 “There’s no need to miss someone from your past.

There’s a reason they didn’t make it to your future” – Unknown

Some people hold on to relationships that are unhealthy because they believe that  it’s better than nothing or they are afraid of letting go.

Have you ever met the type of person who stayed in a relationship (for years) and you thought the reason was because they were afraid of being alone, making it on their own, or just waiting for the kids to grow up?

It is so hard to break molds and behavioral patterns.  It takes recognizing the need to change, then having the courage to Just Quit the relationship.

All you have to do is keep remembering that this is “your life”. Do you want to waste any more time with this person, or do you need to move on?

Just be honest with yourself.  No matter how difficult this may be, just be honest with yourself.

Not that you will end the relationship tomorrow, but you need to make the decision today.

The Family and Friends Saga

Sometimes those relationships that we need to Just Quit are with family members or “best friends”.

There comes a point and time in your life when you wake up one morning and realize that you can choose how you want to relate even to family and dear friends.  Yes, you need to fulfill all of your obligations, but just be aware of the people in your life.

• Maybe they are draining you of all of your energy.
• Maybe they are just plain jealous of you
• Maybe they  use you for everything that they can.
• Maybe they are too dang needy, and you’re the one they call on to fulfill their needs.
• Maybe they live their lives through you.
• Maybe you support them in their endeavors, but they never support you.
• Maybe you just listen to their problems, but don’t feel comfortable sharing your problems with them.

If you have family and  “friends” who exhibit these behaviors then it might be time to ~ Break Free. 

Let them go.

Don’t call them back.

Don’t continue to be used.

…and don’t wait until you think it’s the perfect time to leave.

The perfect time is NOW.

DO IT NOW

 Just Quit.

It’s a liberating thing to do.

Is there a relationship currently in your life that you know is unhealthy and that you need to  at least make the decision to Just Quit? 

Are you willing to make a commitment

to yourself just to make the decision? 

Do you find even making the decision hard? 

Why? (Now, Just Keep Asking Yourself Why?)

 

Just Quit Not Accepting That You Could Be Part of The Problem In Your Relationships

 

“We need in love to practice only this: letting each other go.

For holding on comes easily–we do not need to learn it.”

– Rainer Maria Rilke

Relationships connect us to each other.   Most of the time they are great and make life worth living. Sometimes they are not so good and then HARD to get out of because they are so familiar, so comfortable, and so everyday.

Relationships are complicated and involve many emotions, memories and ties. Even when a relationship is bad, at least it is the known versus the unknown. Even when a relationship is bad, at least it is some human contact that is familiar.

There are some relationships that we have that are not in balance.  They are not healthy.  Many relationships we want and need to improve, set some boundaries, or eliminate all together.

Your Relationships always include YOU

You’ll have to deal with the harder questions about yourself.  You’ll have to figure out what attracted this type of person into your life. People are mere reflections of others.  There is something in that person that is a reflection of you.

WHO WANTS TO HEAR THAT? 

Unless you are ready and willing to deal with yourself, this person in your life does not matter. Even though they are making you miserable and bringing you down, and they don’t have your best interest in mind, it doesn’t matter.

It is not this person’s fault BECAUSE the person who is doing these things to you (to “your life”) may…just…really…be…you.

Even if you got rid of that person, you’ll probably attract another person just like them into your life.  Then you’ll have the same type of situations to deal with, just with a new face.

If you’re honest with yourself, haven’t you found that to be the truth?

Learn to love yourself first, find yourself, be good to yourself…you have to start there first.

Just Quit Talking on the Telephone (for hours!)

You have been warned against letting the golden hours slip by. Yes, but some of them are golden only because we let them slip by.
~James Matthew Barrie~

When you are talking on the telephone what are you talking about?  

You can talk for hours on and off about what’s happening, what’s gonna happen, what you hope would happen, your children, your house, your hobbies, your business ideas, church folk, work folk, shopping, losing weight, your hair, your aches and pains, men or women.  The list can just go on and on.

When you look back, was it all helpful, or was it a complete waste of precious time? 

 Stop escaping and just talking about life and “live” your life.

How much time do you spend talking or texting everyday? 

Is it a worthwhile use of your time?