How Letting Go to Let Come Plays Out

 

This is what it feels like when you are in alignment with your life’s energy, intuition and purpose.

When you start to trust life and when letting go to let come starts to “work out” time and time again.

Just realize that you have to believe it’s okay and that this is happening to you and that you have found the master-key.

That you are in alignment.  

That you are in balance.

Don’t Wonder

• Don’t wonder if the things that are coming your way are for you.  They are.  You’re just aligned with your original purpose and things are syncing up as they should.

• Don’t wonder why that person is showing interest in you.  Don’t wonder if they are really interested in you.  Don’t question why they are interested or if you can trust it or trust them.  Things have changed because you can trust yourself.  Because of this new level of trust in yourself and in life itself you understand that if they are legitimately supposed to be in your life, then they will be, if not, they will fall away.

• Don’t wonder why money is coming  your way, to you, in your name, and being placed in your hands.  This is your time.  Life goes in cycles.  There are just some cycle of life that click, that start to make sense for you.  Don’t be surprised that it’s not a “big deal” that money (which is just energy) is flowing your way and you’re not “all excited”.  You’re even balanced in this area of your life and in your thoughts.

Something’s Happening Behind The Scenes

There is something really happening in the earth, oceans, with nature and some people are tuning in and some people are not.  Some people have been preparing (maybe without knowing it) and some people have not.

Some people are blooming late just like some flowers bloom after the season that they should have bloomed.  But they eventually bloom.  You may be just blooming late.  Maybe you don’t know (or remember)  how it feels to be fully open to the energy of the universe that is allowing you to fully bloom.  It’s okay to just allow that energy to open you up to bloom.

Allow that energy to take you where you need to go. Allow it to help you to say what you need to say.  Allow it to open your throat chakra and just speak your truth.  The truth that only you can speak.  The truth that all of your experiences, people you’ve met along the way, places you have gone, and places that you have worked are just flowing through you.

Just Allow Things To Happen Through You

It’s unexplainable to you right now, but its only because you are now allowing the spirit to move though you.  You don’t feel as though it is you became it is beyond you and just coming through you.  At some point you realize that all the blocks or brakes are off. The emergency brake is not up any more.  You can’t believe you lived life tentatively, afraid, in fear — of what?  Life?  Love? Bad Things?  Good Things? The Unknown?  The Known? No more…you’re free just to be who you are – right now.

You can now recognize quicker what is and what is not for you.  You are now aware that the first thing that pops into your mind may not be the right thing or the only thing.  You don’t have to be perplexed about what  you’re going to do, or pursue.  You’re even understanding of situations that don’t turn out alright –  it might not be the thing for you or the place that you need to go.

Just let things marinate for a while if  the path is not clear.  Sometimes you will know right away and other times you need to allow time for things to become clear.  The most interesting thing is that you now know when to act and when to wait.

This is what it feels like when you in balance and no longer afraid of life no matter what comes into your mind or into your life  – you are just allowing it to happen.

Just Listen To Others

We need to hold each others dreams.

We need to believe in ourselves and we need to understand that others need us to believe in them too.

We need to try to see other people.

Try to hear them clearly.

Hear their pain.  Hear their joy. Hear their ideas.

Listen to their stories.  Everybody that you meet has a story and everybody wants to tell it – to someone.

Listen to the people in your life.  Hear them.  Even if you’re tired of listening to them.  Listen to them from your heart.

There is something powerful about giving of yourself without losing yourself.

There is something powerful about believing so strongly and having the ability to help others to believe in themselves, in their abilities, in reaching their goals, and using their highest skills and talents.

There is something powerful about giving people the opportunity to hear themselves think out loud and to tell their story like a myth that can be changed with just one decision.

Sometimes it takes just one decision to change a life story and all people need is someone to hear them out – to just listen.

Just Go...Let Go of Your "Normal" Schedule & Go

Seems when I just go and do things that I’m led to do I have the most rewarding experiences.

So this weekend I just went…

To See A  Documentary

Heard on NPR there was a documentary being shown at a local church.  So, I just went to see the documentary called The Final Gift about a lady who lost her brother to murder and her journey to make sense of it.  It led her to get a master’s degree in Criminal Justice, making a documentary, and not just talking about but actually participating in Restorative Justice.

Watching the documentary was interesting.  Listening to the filmmaker was interesting.  The most interesting thing is that out of tragedy she found her voice.  You could see and hear the passion in her voice and attitude. I went because of my brother’s murder and wondering if now was the time for me to “deal” with it, research it, call Atlanta PD cold case unit, and solve his murder after all these years.  I left thinking when the time is right I’ll know.  I guess for so long I’ve remembered what my uncle said at my brother’s funeral; “There are somethings that are not meant to be solved, they just are, like getting a cold.”   I still don’t feel the passion to pursue cracking open this case  – yet –  but watching this film and listening to the film-maker was a stepping stone and I’m glad I just went…

To A Funeral of The Lady I Didn’t Know

I always get the Friday paper to see what’s happening over the weekend. I never actually read the paper I just look at the section about what’s happening over the weekend.  Somehow, I decided to read the paper and I read about a lady who died who was like the housekeeper from “The Help” for a local family.  I guess that’s why it made the paper.  I thought it was interesting about first this making the paper and that you never know what experiences in your life will make you “make the paper” once you’re gone.

So, instead of going to exercise class (normal Saturday morning routine)  I decided to get dressed and go to her funeral.  I’ve never been to a funeral for someone I didn’t personally know.  I guess most people haven’t.  It was a very strange feeling, watching and listening to people who I didn’t know.  At some point I got nervous that someone was going to ask me how I knew this lady who had died…what would I say?…I read about her in the paper and decided to come…that sounded crazy…I kind of stuck out like a sore thumb.  I didn’t look like anyone there. No one asked me who I was, thank goodness.

The experience was very interesting –  I wondered/pondered/experienced the below:

• What do people think about when they look at corpses in a casket?
• Watching the people walk in single file to look at the lady in the casket knowing one day they will also die
• What about those people who take pictures of the person in the casket? I’m still trying to figure that out.
• One lady was talking to a friend and said; “When you’re 70 you’re not responsible for nothing.”  That’s what she told her children the other day.  I liked that comment!
• The older women wearing wigs.  I wondered when do women just get comfortable with themselves, their own hair, their bodies?  Does putting on your wig (not being who you really are)  go on forever until you die?
• The people talking, laughing having a good time before the family came in.
• The casket being crooked and the lack of attention to that detail.  We can live crooked lives because we aren’t paying attention enough to straighten things  out.  Once you see things are going crooked in your life you have to straighten it up, even if people see you straighten it up,  just straighten  it up.
• Why do people sign the register?  Is it like saying “present” when your name is called?
• There was an announcement made that the family was coming in.  That meant for the talking, laughter and general “it’s just an event, no one in my family died” conversation (reunion) to stop.
• The man in the grey suit with the white hat in his hand that made me think of my father and how he dressed.
• A final viewing???  I’d never heard of that, where the family got to see the body again before the casket was closed and the funeral began.
• The opening while they waited for the preacher to arrive – ” “Mother’ wasn’t a dead person, so don’t come in here to be a spectator (which is exactly what I was doing), we’re not in church but we’re going to give God praise like we’re in church (wondering if people really think that you have to go to church to give God praise), Take your brakes off and allow God to minister to your heart ( I liked that phrase), If you didn’t love her you wouldn’t be here (that’s not true, I didn’t even know her), I’m ready, Can you say you’re ready?, Mother was ready, Will you be ready? (the preaching into heaven and call to repentance in the beginning of the service?)…this “preaching” ends because the real preacher comes in.
• Then this young lady got up and really sang this song.  She sang I Won’t Complain.  I’d never heard that song before, but it was wonderful and she sang it like a ministry.  If I didn’t do anything else on this day watching that young lady with the big earrings sing that song would have been enough.  Here’s John Legend signing it “mildly” , but this young lady really sang the song with all her heart and soul.

• Back to the minster talking about how the lady had lived a beautiful life and that everyone’s heart was heavy. How she let her work – life speak for her and that when you’re resting in your grave there is nothing that can be said
• The mention that text messages of encouragement that were given.  I thought that was very modern to add that to the normal cards and phone calls.
• Admonishment to remember the legacy that “Mother” had left for her children.
• Mention of “Mother” being in the local paper and why and asking the young man she had taken care of to speak during the open time for anyone to speak.

After people started to get up and speak I left. I didn’t wait to hear the Eulogy.  I guess I got what I needed.  I’d let go of my normal schedule and just went…let go of fear… not really caring what someone might think or if I would get something out of it.

If you just go where the universe is telling you to go, you will get what you need out of it…so just go…let go of your routine…and go.

 

 

 

 

Just Quit Running At The First Sign of Rain

While on my daily walk around the track/basketball court at the local elementary school it started to rain.

There were several young boys playing basketball  – and –  at the first sign of rain they ran.

I knew that even  if it down-poured I was going to continue to walk around that track.

Even In The Rain

I watched them run away and get on their bikes and ride away.

Inside of a minute the rain stopped and I wondered if they would come back. They didn’t. They had aborted their game and their fun –  at the first sign of rain.

Ten minutes later the down-pour started.  I continued to walk, got drenched, but I felt free.

Then suddenly the rain stopped and the sun came out.

I continued to walk around the track.

Life Lessons:

1.  In life there will be both rain (“bad” things) and sunshine (“good” things) – embrace both the rain and the sunshine that comes in your life.

2. The rain can come as sprinkles (small manageable “bad” things) or as down-pours (knock you off your feet “bad” things) – but you still need to stay and face those things.

3. Don’t let the weather (good or bad things)  determine your actions (mood, thoughts, purpose, path, goals) – if you know where you’re suppose to be and doing what you’re suppose to be doing, keep going.

4. Sometimes the rain starts small (maybe it’s a sign of things to come), then it stops (maybe it’s over) and comes back with a vengeance (will it ever end?).  Just like tests in life you get to decide what you are going to do when it rains.  Do you run or walk on in and through the rain until the sun shines again?

5.  Sometimes you need to walk though the rain to see what it feels like and see what happens. Once you’ve experienced it and made it out on the other end you realize, it wasn’t as scary as you thought.  You grew. You learned.  You made it through that. It’s now apart of your story. (Remember, we all have a story)

The Rain Always Stops

Those boys were too young to know that the rain would stop.

As adults we can sometimes be like those young boys when facing life  situations – we run a the first sign of trouble – in relationships, in jobs, in new towns, in organizations, in idea creation, in inventions, and in business endeavors –  but if you know where you’re going and what you’re doing you can stay put if you know you’re on the right track — your track — your path.

You do have a path – a track that once you get on it that doors will open that you didn’t know were there.  Once you get on that path and are okay with your journey of life then you can stop being afraid of the rain that will come in your life.  You can appreciate the rain weather you decide to walk on through it (face stuff)  and stop running (out of fear) of what could happen (probably won’t) or you can decide to run (until you realize that rain will continue to come in your life and you’ve gotta embrace it in order to grow).

But When Do You Run?

When it starts lightning which is a sign to Retreat, Reflect and Review what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Just Let Go of Anger

“The angry people are those who are most afraid.”

~ Dr. Robert Anthony

 

LETTING GO OF ANGER IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE

Over this Memorial Day Holiday I decided to start working on my checklist of home repair/maintenance items.  One item on my list was to get my house power-washed  and the gutters cleaned.  I had a few flyers put in my mailbox over the spring and decided to call one of the numbers on the flyer.

CALLING THE WRONG NUMBER

I knew right away that I should have called the next number, because the guy wanted the job too badly. But…I thought how bad could it be.  Let’s just say that it’s three days later and I still don’t have my house power-washed, BUT I have this guys ladder in my back yard along with his water hose (which means he has to come back).  He wants an additional $40 for fixing the fence and putting up fascia that came off (things I never asked him to do) and he ran into the utility pole in my yard and bent it (he didn’t tell me, just didn’t think it was important for me know this). Needless to say I was angry.  I was angrier than I’ve been in a long time.

GETTING ANGRY – WHAT IT FEELS LIKE

I had to think back over my life when and why I’ve been that angry.  Usually it was when people tried to get over on me, when people wasted my time, or when I felt people were just plain mean and scary — frightening.  So after I identified the feelings that were happening to me I just allowed them to happen.  I just fully experienced the anger.  I fully experienced the fear of dealing with someone who felt “dark” to me.  Someone unable to control his need to harm others, abuse others, scare others, and just be unfair in his dealing with others.  I thought of all the things I wanted to do to get back at him for making me angry and afraid, THEN I just stopped and wondered what exactly was I afraid of.  The unknown of what he could do to me or my house? My mind was racing on what COULD happen…still could I guess because it’s not resolved.

GRATEFULNESS FOR THE EXPERIENCE

I went back to being grateful.  Grateful that I am not around a person like that on a daily basis.  Grateful that I am not him.  Grateful I don’t have to live this life like he does. Grateful that I am safe today.  Grateful that he didn’t power-wash my house and  mess it up. Grateful that I’m only out of $100 and not $125 “deposit”.  Grateful that my childhood experiences and professional training has allowed me to recognize people like him and know how to deal with him.  Grateful that I had that experience and felt that sort of anger and fear again.  (At some point when you have been living in peace and serenity for as long as I have you forget what these “negative” intense feelings feel like).   Grateful that I could allow it and just let it go, let it ebb away from me.  Grateful that I can trust life and what it has in store for me (even though I know there is still the possibility I’ll get angry again and there may be something real to fear in final dealings with him). Grateful  none-the-less that I’m able to see the value even in this thing.

You can let go of anger…just allow it…feel it…recognize it…

You can let go of fear…just allow it…feel it…recognize it….

Post Note: June 1, 2012 – Still haven’t heard from the “dark natured’ guy, still have his ladder and hose.  Maybe I’ll never hear from him again.

Post-Post Note: June 6, 2012 – Still haven’t heard from the “dark natured’ guy.  Decided to research on line how to power-wash a house with a hose and DISCOVERED a product call Mold Armor at Home Depot for $8.97.  I brought it and it worked like a charm.  My house looks like new — for a grand total of  $8.97.  Let’s just say if he doesn’t show up or call EVER again…then the experience was valuable.  For $100 I got a lesson in anger, my fenced fixed, my fascia put back on the house, a ladder that reaches the second floor, a very long garden hose AND the realization that MOST EVERYTHING I have on my list to fix around the house I can find instructions on YOU TUBE…I even figured out and FIXED the garbage disposal…I’m smiling now!

 

Let Go of Looking for Love

When love beckons to you, follow him, though his ways are hard and steep.

When his wings enfold you yield to him, though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. 

~Kahlil Gibran on Love

We search. We hope. We pray.  We believe.

We look to find someone “else” who will “really” love us.

Someone who will make us happy.

  Someone who will like to do the things that we like to do.

Someone who will support us.

Someone who will listen to us.

  Someone who will go through life with us.

We look.

We go here.  We go there.

We are looking for that special someone to love us.

Eventually we think that we are going to find that  person and it’s going to be the right fit.

It’s going to FEEL right.

It’s going to BE right.

It’s going to BE for life.

It’s going to BE the real thing.

We are finally going to find and BE in love.

YOU FINALLY FIND LOVE

So, let’s say that you do find love.  It works out.  You live together happily for 20 years.  Then that person dies.

Where are you?  Where are you now?

You are left with wonderful memories of your time with them.

You’re probably hurt that they are gone.  You miss them.  You’re glad that you had a chance to get to know them.  To love them.  To be loved by them. To share your life with them.  But they’re now gone.

 So, where are you?  You are alone, again.  You are with yourself, again. You are back where you started right before you first came into this world. You are where you will be when you leave this world.

You Must Love Yourself First

LOVE BEGINS WITH YOU

There is just no real way to ignore the fact that the first lesson in learning to love is to love yourself.

Get to know yourself.

  Be in love with you, with who you are, what you’re about.

  Someone will then always love you.

You will love you.

 There is no need to suffer or settle when it comes to love or looking for love.

  Once you discover the greatest love of all, and realize that it’s not just YOU that you are, but it’s greater than you, then everything starts to make sense — EVERYTHING.

Loving Yourself IS Loving God.

Loving Yourself IS Loving Your Neighbor.

 There’s no separation.  There is no isolation.  In the end there is only Love.

What if there were a love that was so grand and great that you could not escape from it?  There is – loving yourself and not listening to those voices in your head that tell you that you are un-loveable.

If you do find someone who shares this special understanding then let the awesome  journey begin, but it won’t be a struggle.  It will be natural and you will know they are the one.  There is an inner wisdom that will let you know.  The relationship will be founded and grounded  in Love, in the awesome process of Loving and being Beloved and Supported.

Let Go of The Need to Look Outside of Yourself for Love, Happiness and Fulfillment.  You will then open a space where those who can’t really love you (because they don’t love themselves) will fall away.  Somehow the universe will remove them without much effort on your part.  Don’t be afraid of being without them. Don’t worry,  your beloved is already here, your beloved loves themselves and therefore can love you with an intense, dynamic and unselfish love. 

You Must First Look Within 

That Is Where You Must Start In Order to Understand Love.

~Ridea Richardson 

Letting Go Quotes

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning.”
~Lao Tzu~

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”
~Lao Tzu~

“When one door closes another door opens; but we so
often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed
door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”
~Alexander Graham Bell~

“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”
~Chinese Proverb~

“Nirvana means to extinguish the burning fires of the Three Poisons: greed, anger, and ignorance. This can be accomplished by letting go of dissatisfaction.”
~Shinjo Ito~

“Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.”
~Raymond Lindquist~

“Don’t let your mind bully your body into
believing it must carry the burden of its worries.”
~Astrid Alauda~

“Inner peace can be reached only when we practice
forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past,
and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions.”
~Gerald Jampolsky~

“Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of
something, loves something and has lost something.”
~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.~

“To sit with a dog on a hillside on a glorious afternoon is to be back in Eden, where doing nothing was not boring – it was peace.”
~Milan Kundera~

“There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go.”
~Jessica Hatchigan~

“You cannot let go of anything if you cannot notice
that you are holding it. Admit your ‘weaknesses’ and
watch them morph into your greatest strengths.”
~Neale Donald Walsch~

“Stress is an ignorant state.
It believes that everything is an emergency.”
~Natalie Goldberg~

“Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise
live rent-free in your head.”
~Ann Landers~

“To give up yourself without regret is the greatest charity.”
~Bodhidharma~

“I don’t let go of concepts – I meet them with understanding.
Then they let go of me.”
~Byron Katie~

“It is so conceited and timid to be ashamed of one’s mistakes.
Of course they are mistakes. Go on to the next.”
~Brenda Ueland~

“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment
is the only one you know you have for sure.”
~Oprah Winfrey~

“Think about any attachments that are depleting
your emotional reserves. Consider letting them go.”
~Oprah Winfrey~

“One problem with gazing too frequently into the past is
that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us.”
~Michael Cibenko~

“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering.
Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.”
~Thich Nhat Hanh~

“The farther behind I leave the past,
the closer I am to forging my own character.”
~Isabelle Eberhardt~

“Half of the confusion in the world comes from not knowing how
little we need. I live more simply now, and with more peace.”
~Richard Byrd~

“The sun, though it passes through dirty places,
yet remains as pure as before.”
~Francis Bacon~

“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.”
~Havelock Ellis~

“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up
on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”
~Anna Quindlen~

“Dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you’ll die today.”
~James Dean~

“When you’re passionate about something, you want it to be all
it can be. But in the endgame of life, I fundamentally believe
the key to happiness is letting go of that idea of perfection.”
~Debra Messing~

“Loving someone is setting them free, letting them go.”
~Kate Winslet~

“Every breath is an opportunity to receive and let go.
I receive love and I let go of pain.”
~Brenda MacIntyre~

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned,
so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.”
~Joseph Campbell~

“You can only lose what you cling to.”
~Buddha~

“Suffering is not holding you. You are holding suffering.
When you become good at the art of letting sufferings go,
then you’ll come to realize how unnecessary it was for you
to drag those burdens around with you. You’ll see that no
one else other than you was responsible. The truth is that
existence wants your life to become a festival.”
~Osho~

“Ask yourself this question:
“Will this matter a year from now?”
~Richard Carlson Ph.D~

“Art is nothing but the expression of our dream; the more we surrender to it the closer we get to the inner truth of things, our dream-life, the true life that scorns questions and does not see them.”
~Franz Marc~

“Creativity can be described as letting go of certainties.”
~Gail Sheehy~

“Celebrate whatever arises in consciousness
without clinging to anything.”
~Hale Dwoskin~

“To change skins, evolve into new cycles, I feel one has to learn to discard. If one changes internally, one should not continue to live with the same objects. They reflect one’s mind and the psyche of yesterday. I throw away what has no dynamic, living use.”
~Anaïs Nin~

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong;
but sometimes it is letting go.”
~Herman Hesse~

“You can’t hold a man down without staying down with him.
~Booker T. Washington~

“Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them;
but do not let them master you.
Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight.
~Helen Keller~

“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do
about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why
hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”
~Leo Buscaglia~

“You have been warned against letting the golden hours slip by.
Yes, but some of them are golden only because we let them slip by.”
~James Matthew Barrie~

“Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing.
There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow
people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a
time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.”
~Gloria Naylor~

“The harder you fight to hold on to specific assumptions,
the more likely there’s gold in letting go of them.”
~John Seely Brown~

“Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It
means full acceptance, even celebration of another’s personhood.”
~Karen Casey~

“It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease.
Hack away at the unessential.”
~Bruce Lee~

“Absorb what is useful. Discard what is not.
Add what is uniquely your own.”
~Bruce Lee~

“The field of consciousness is tiny.
It accepts only one problem at a time.”
~Antoine de Saint-Exupery~

“Letting your mind play is the best way to solve problems.”
~Bill Watterson~

“If you surrender completely to the moments as they pass,
you live more richly those moments.
~Anne Morrow Lindbergh~

“When you become good at the art of letting sufferings go,
then you’ll come to realize what you were dragging around with you.
And for that, no one else other than you was responsible.”
~Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh~