Why Do We Hold On?

Why Do We Hold On  –  When There is Nothing There?

Why Do We Keep Forgetting – This Is Not What We Want?

Why Do We Keep Telling Ourselves –  It’s Something That It’s Not?

 

Why Can’t We Just Admit Things Have Changed?

Why Can’t We Accept That Everything Changes?

Why Not Just Let Go?

Because It’s Hard To Accept That Things Have Changed.

Because It’s Hard To Accept That We Have to Move On.

Because It’s Hard To Accept That The Ending Is Here

& It Aint What We Thought It Would Be.

So We Hold On…So We Hope… So We Pray…So We Believe…

What?…Things Will Change Back….Things Will Be Different…So…We Just Hold On…Until…It Ends…It Always Ends.

Everything Always Ends.

Learn to Let Go When You KNOW You Need to Let Go

  Not When You HAVE to Let Go

You Can’t Hold On. 

Life Is About Change and Change is About Letting Go,

Not Holding On.

By Ridea Richardson

Letting Go Isn't Easy At All

 

 

 

Letting Go is Painful

&

It Hurts.

No one really wants to Let Go,

because

Letting Go is about Change.

Letting Go is a part of Life.

It is not easy,

but necessary.

Let go of the need to control,

to hold on to relationships

that aren’t about love,

to hold on to people

who aren’t good for you,

to hold on when you know

it’s basically over or coming to an end,

to hold on only to be with someone…

being alone works too!

Let Go…Just Let Go!

 

Let Go of Trying to Control Your Thoughts

Just let your thoughts happen.

Just watch them like you are watching television. “Oh, look at that it was a thought.” Ping

Your mind is CONSTANTLY thinking.  That voice in your head thinks it runs the show.  It really does.  We have given it so much power that we might believe that it runs the show as well.

YOU ARE NOT YOUR BRAIN.  You are not what you are thinking.  You know this because of the hundreds, thousands even, of senseless thoughts that run across your mind. It NEVER ends. It NEVER will.  SO…just enjoy the journey.

Observe Your Thoughts

Can you control your thoughts?  Yes, you can – with breathing techniques, various meditations and other practices.  Which of course all require some thought.  You really can’t escape your mind and thinking, so don’t struggle against it, just observe it and allow it to do its thing – for now. It has been doing it’s thing all along while you’ve been living unconsciously, but now with observation it will prove to be an interesting exercise. It will be like your mind is on trial.  It’s going to hate that…because it’s been running amok for so long without being put in check.

Once you can be comfortable with NOT TRYING to control your thoughts, naturally, your thoughts, especially the negative ones will start to become fewer and fewer.  All those fears of what could happen, what might happen, what should have happened will seem so silly.

As your negative thoughts start to ebb away, your life will become calmer and more in line with your purpose or reason for being here.  You’ll know when it starts to happen because you will have loped off people, places and things that are misaligned and causing you negative emotions and energy.  It will be like scales falling away from you.  Those people, places, things will just seem foreign to you.  You’ll find that you can unattached yourself without a great deal of struggle and strive.

It all starts with just observing your thinking.  DON’T THINK ABOUT IT,  JUST OBSERVE.  You will quickly realize that it is the “monkey mind” that you are observing and it’s completely senseless and NOT who you really are.

Keep on thinking all your thoughts. 

The only thing to do now is to just observe them like you are watching them from outside of yourself.  

Have fun…don’t make it a job description…just sit down and observe the voice in your head…

Let Go of The Heavy Burden - Let Come Your Life That Wants To Unfold

Once you realize that the universe is able and WILLING to give you want you need, who you need, when you need it and what it gives to you will fulfill all of your needs (not some of your needs, but ALL of your needs)  there is no longer any worrying about the future or regretting the past.  You can live in the now.  Now, is really is all there is. This present moment really is a wonderful moment.  This moment, right here, right now.

Letting Go is a Relief

Haven’t you experienced that when you let go of something that, or someone who “seemed” so hard (impossible even)  to let go of that when you finally do, it is a relief.  It is like a burden that you were carrying around with you that was so

Heavy Burden

unnecessary.  Just imagine carrying a heavy load on your shoulders that is weighing you down.  Then you realize that all you have to do is to put the heavy load down on the ground then you can move on more freely and at ease.   You wonder why you felt it necessary to  “hold on”  or “keep probing up” the familiar that wasn’t working for you and was completely out of alignment with what you needed or wanted.

No matter how many things, people or places you’ve learned to let go of, letting go it is still a process that takes practice.

Just Let Life Happen – Stop Struggling

Just let life flow and let things come to you that are meant for you. Be in alignment with what the universe wants to give to you.  Don’t struggle and go against the grain of the flow of life.  Life really isn’t a struggle.  You may think that it is.  It might be difficult dealing with people, family , friends, and loved ones but in the final analysis life is what you make it to be.  Life is really a gift to you, to experience life.  Just stop. Just breathe. There are people all over the world that are being asked to leave this earth and they would give anything for another day to breathe, to love and to live.  If you are reading this you are still alive and you have another moment.  Just breathe in and breathe out.  Feel how it feels to be in your body.  Appreciate that!

How Will You Know When You Need To Let Go?

When you start releasing the load and things start to unfold, people come that wouldn’t have come otherwise, someone emails you that you haven’t heard from in years, things happen that show you the way, a picture starts to unfold on the blank canvas, and the fog clears.  All that holding on to what wasn’t for you or who wasn’t for you dissolves and you know that letting go and living in the present moment is all there is and you’re using the keys that have unlocked the pathway to living a joyful life  – which is your natural state and you feel wonderful and grateful just to be alive.

 

Letting Go Is A LifeLong Process

So…you’re learning how to let go – congratulations…

Maybe you can chalk up many past success stories of letting go BEFORE you have to.

Most everyone has let go of something/someone, but it’s usually AFTER they HAVE to let go, and have held on TOO long.

But…maybe you’re a pro at it (or think that you are) because you  have been doing it over the years.

You’ve mastered letting go…right?

Well… there’s good news and bad news…

Good News…Keep up the good work, because you’re on the right track now.

Bad News…Some of the stuff from the track that you were on, may come back at you like a freight train out of nowhere!

You can’t run away from your past.

It’s a part of you. It’s makes you who you are.

You have to come to terms with your past decisions, actions, and the repercussions from those actions.

It could be things that you’ve done, said, covered-up, forgotten about that are still lingering on because although you’ve let go and  moved on, it’s still in you, and in your thought patterns.

The ripples effects of your actions are still in the universe and might reverberate back to you.

Maybe someone says something, doesn’t say something, looks a certain way that makes you remember that thing, person, place, or thought that you’ve already let go of. It takes you back.  It KNOCKS you back.  That’s okay.  Just know that it’s okay.

Deal with whatever comes up, take a look at it, talk about it if you have to,or  if you find someone who can understand this journey that you’re on. Just know that it’s something else that you have to let go of.

In order to let go of some lingering things you might have  to make amends, apologize, make a phone call, find the person you need to talk to in order to truly let go.

Once you feel that thing (Oh no! What is this? I thought I’d dealt with this!) come back up…don’t ignore it, just deal with it.

Just suspend it out in front of you and see what you need to do next.

Don’t judge yourself.

Don’t be hard on yourself, because you thought you’d dealt with ALL the issues surrounding whatever it is.

Just suspend it in front of you and be grateful for the fact that it’s come up.

You needed it to come up.

Sometimes we want it to go away. Just ignore it.  We might be looking for that person to make it better, someone who will listen to our story.  Sometimes that person is there and sometimes they aren’t.  Sometimes there is really no one who can truly understand.  Not right at that current time. You realize that you need to be there for yourself and help yourself figure it out.  That’s okay too, because it is y-o-u-r journey.  No worries.

When this happens it does make you look at exactly where you are today.

If nothing else it makes you not be satisfied with what you’ve let go of in the past.

It is clear that you have to live your life now, in the present moment.

You know that there is more work to be done, there’s more progress to be made, and more to let go of.

Why?  Because there is more to come!

Don’t rest on your laurels, because you caught the big Merlin 10 years ago.

Today is today…what do you need to let go of today in order to let come the future that wants to emerge? (It might just be some residuals of something from 10 years ago that found it way back into your awareness…it is okay…keep going!)

Just Quit Ignoring What You Know You Need To Do

More than half the time we KNOW what we need to do.  Our intuition tells us what we need to do,  where we need to go, what we need to say, what or who we need to let go of.

But…we just don’t want to accept what we KNOW we need to do.  We argue with ourselves. We second guess ourselves.  We think “maybe” things aren’t “really” that bad. We think “maybe” we’re being too rash or harsh or mean or judgmental.

Just Do It!

So what do we do?  We go against what we KNOW we need to do.  Why do we do that?  Because usually what we need to do requires change, and change is hard.

But…no matter what… change is going to come.  The more we realize that we can be a part of the change process and we can help co-create our future, things start to shift. It’s not so scary anymore making the hard decisions and doing what we KNOW we need to do. We begin to see  more clearly that what is… may not be… all that there is.  This isn’t new. We already know this.  We already know from past experiences or current situations how not going ahead and doing what we know we need to do impacts us:

• You hated your boss. You hated your job.  You dreaded waking up in the morning.  What did you do?  You stayed on.  You were scared of moving on (for one reason or the other).  What happened?  Eventually something changed, but maybe not the way you wanted it to.   The company downsized and you got laid off, or you had to take on m0re work because you were one of the one’s who didn’t get laid off.
• You had outgrown your spouse.  You felt stuck in a miserable marriage.  You hated coming home.  You knew somebody needed to leave.  You knew separation was inevitable, it was just a matter of when, not if.  What did you do?  You stayed.  You were afraid to move on.  What happened?  Things got a lot worse and the break-up was horrible for everyone involved.
• You’ve lived in the same town your whole life.  You’ve visited other places, but not lived any other place.  You’ve talked to people who had left their hometowns and they now talked about how “small” it seems to them.  You regret never having left.  You felt like you wanted to leave, but couldn’t see a path forward.  What did you do?  You stayed.  You were afraid to leave your hometown.  What happened?  You’re still there, feeling like you’ve missed out on something or feeling like a failure whenever you have to talk to people who’ve left and come back home to visit.
• You’ve work for someone else your entire career.  Well, maybe you’ve done some small stuff on your own, but nothing on the level that you’ve dreamed. You’ve got great ideas (but who doesn’t).  You’ve got the education and the credentials to do your own thing. You look at others who’ve stepped out on their own and wonder how on earth they could have done it and you’re still stuck getting a paycheck.  You just sit back and wonder what the hold-up is.  Guess what?  You’re the hold-up.  You’ve been afraid to get started (and not just the go down get the business license, buy the business cards, write the business plan stuff — 20% of folks can and have done that) it’s the actual hitting the pavement,  making things happen, making money, and making a difference.

Most of us have been in one of the above situations, or something similar.

Your time has come. Stop waiting on it.   It’s your time to realize who we are, why you’re here and get on with what you KNOW you need to do.

Just keep moving towards what you KNOW you need to do. There is something inside of you that already knows. Trust it. Believe it and move forward.  NO ONE can tell you what to do.  NO ONE can tell you when to do it. NO ONE can live your life for you.  This is your life.  Make it your life.  Don’t live the life people think you should live.  Don’t live someone else’s life.  One day you’ll wake up and wonder –What the heck?  Is THIS my life? What’s going on? Who am I?  What am I doing?  Don’t wait too late to just quit doing what isn’t working.  Do what you know needs to be done in just one situation in your life and you will have the courage to live the life that you’ve imagined.

Just listen — get quiet — be still  — and listen

You KNOW What You Need To Do.

Now DO it!

 

 

Just Quit Making New Year's Resolutions That Are All About Yourself

Why are you unhappy?

Because 99.9 per cent

Of everything you think,

And of everything you do,

Is for yourself —

And there isn’t one.

 *From Wei Wu Wei – Taoist Philosopher*