Feeling Lonely

 You are reading from the book  “Just Quit” & Live

Q: Why do you want to quit your job EVEN if you don’t have another job lined-up?

A: Because I feel trapped and lonely.

~Worker Living in CHINA

It doesn’t matter where you live.  You can live in China with a billion other people and still feel lonely.

It is okay to feel lonely if you can allow yourself to feel it, go through it and get to the other side of lonely. 

The other side of lonely has nothing to do with having someone around you. It has everything to do with first being okay with being alone with yourself, no matter the circumstances. 

You will leave this world by yourself…alone…so don’t struggle when you feel lonely…embrace it…grow from it…get to know and love yourself.

From “Just Quit” & Live by Ridea Richardson ©2014.  All rights reserved.

    Just Quit & Live is available for purchase via Amazon.

P.S. I find it amazing that someone from China actually was able to get through and make this entry to the survey…workplace misery is a worldwide issue.

Peace to everyone, Ridea

Listening to Our Bodies

You are reading from the book  “Just Quit” & Live

Today’s Workplace Story/Situation:

I am under so much stress. I feel like I’m going to have a heart attack. The panic attacks I’m having are getting worse. ~Worker in FLORIDA

Today’s Meditation/Reflection:

Our bodies will let us know when enough is enough. 

You might be able to fool your own mind.

You might be able to fool your family. 

You cannot however fool your body. Your body has a voice and if it starts to scream you have to listen.

Today listen to your body…you only have one body…you only get one body…that’s it…so listen up.

From “Just Quit” & Live by Ridea Richardson ©2014.  All rights reserved. 

    Just Quit & Live is available for purchase via Amazon.

Connecting With Our Values

You are reading from the book  “Just Quit” & Live

Today’s Workplace Story/Situation:

Having held the positions of CEO and VP in other charities, I can see the potential of (and the very real efficiencies to be had at) my current employer.  Sadly there is the lack of will to change anything. It is impossible for me to forge funding partnerships with the knowledge that we can’t deliver on our commitments. The environment is demoralizing and ridiculous, not even pretending to operate as the guardian of public donations. It’s embarrassing and I have no confidence here.  ~Worker in CANADA 

 

Today’s Meditation/Reflection:

Once we find ourselves in the situation where our promises and our reputations are on the line all of our dealing and actions become measured from that point on. 

There is this almost invisible line that you can cross.  It happens seemingly in an instant, with one deal, one handshake, one piece of paper that they want you to sign, or one broken promise  –  you realize that you just-can’t-do-it-anymore.

You can’t work at a place that affronts your values, and does not have a culture of doing what you feel is ethical and right. That’s one decision…you can’t do this anymore.  The other decision is deciding HOW long you HAVE to stay and how you are going to do your job until you can leave; because you KNOW you HAVE to leave.

From “Just Quit” & Live by Ridea Richardson ©2014.  All rights reserved. 

    Just Quit & Live is available for purchase via Amazon.

 

Doubting Ourselves

 You are reading from the book  “Just Quit” & Live

Today’s Workplace Story/Situation:

I was absolutely miserable and I felt fake because I was managing people but I didn’t care or believe in the work I was doing. I have already quit. It’s been 2.5 months now and I’m beginning to feel very lost and anxious.    

~Worker in CANADA

Today’s Meditation/Reflection:

There are phases that we will go through after we “Just Quit”.

It’s like any other lost that we suffer. When we leave a job and are accustomed to another job to go to; somewhere along the way we begin to wonder if we made the right decision.  Doubt starts to set-in.

We forget how painful it was on that job.  We remember, but we are not still in the situation so we don’t remember ALL of the details. We begin to doubt ourselves and our decision. It’s a natural reaction if things don’t work out as quickly as we planned.

Remember: “Just Quit” is not a rash decision. DO NOT “Just Quit” without going through the Steps.

~Ridea

Having Little To Show

You are reading from the book  “Just Quit” & Live

Today’s Workplace Story/Situation:

I dread going into work every day. I am constantly stressed. I work full-time and have very little to show for it. It’s a dead end job, no chance for growth or advancement. I’m not appreciated by the bosses. I work too hard and I’m paid too little. I’m in tears almost every day at work. Overall, I’m unhappy. Over the last few months, I’ve found myself extremely unhappy, maybe even depressed. This job is the main source of this.

~Worker in Connecticut

Today’s Meditation/Reflection:

Many of us have been working full time for years.

Some of us have been miserable for a while.

Some of us don’t have much to show for our hard work and our brave front.

We have to ask ourselves if we continue on the road we are on, what will happen when we CAN’T work any longer?  What will we do then if we still “have little to show”?

If we are working hard, working full time, doing what we think we MUST and we have little to show now, what does the end look like for us?

We have to ask this while we still have time to make a transformational change.

We have to ask while we are still in good health and of working age.

What do you have to show RIGHT NOW from all of your hard work?

~Ridea

Checking In

You are reading from the book  “Just Quit” & Live

Today’s Workplace Story/Situation:

I am depressed every day when I go to work. None of the tasks are challenging or interesting anymore. I do not feel my talents are used. The bureaucracy at a company this size impedes a lot of productivity. I can only bring myself to work maybe 1-2 hours per day, while spending the rest of my time job-hunting. I’m almost completely checked out.

When I think of my commute (30 minutes – 1 hour, each way), I cringe. Nothing makes that time go by faster. If I see my boyfriend after work, I’m short and clearly unhappy. He and I have both noticed that when I have an interview or other promising job prospect, my mood heightens markedly.

~Worker from TENNESSEE 

Today’s Meditation/Reflection:

We know when we are checked out and are not plugged in. We feel totally lost. We’re wondering HOW did we get here.  We can continue to go ‘round and ‘round trying to find answers, but maybe there aren’t many answers. We are just checked out. We need to check in somewhere else and do something else.

If you’re looking for another job, just keep looking. Something will break… eventually. Everything happens at the right time… just wait. ~Ridea

"Just Quit" & Live The Book

“Just Quit” & Live the Book is finally here.

I wrote this book so that people would know that they are not alone and are not crazy.

The book includes stories from those who stumbled on this blog and completed the survey. We now  have over 2,100 entries from  76 countries from around the world.  Many situations and stories  are very heart-wrenching. Workers answered the question:

“Why do you want to quit your job EVEN if you don’t have another one lined-up?”

 Additionally, I will begin posting  daily with the entries from the book.

Below is today’s entry, location and meditation:

Happiness                                                                                  May 11

I have been at a career for 10 years that causes me a lot of anxiety and turmoil. I have tried different areas within the same career and have finally realized I am not well fitted for this career. I am unhappy and it affects my health and my personal relationships. No job is worth ruining your personal relationships or your health. I want to learn new skills and be in a different more fitting field for me, but I am obsessing with having to spend one more day at my current career I cannot even think about anything else.

I have small children that require care, and we have no other family support. My current job doesn’t give me enough hours to pay for day care, and my hours are so crazy that no day care is open at those times. I do have a husband and he is supportive of this decision and encourages me to find something that makes me happy so that my career unhappiness doesn’t bleed into our lives and make him unhappy too. 

~Worker Living in TEXAS

Today’s Meditation:

Today just say: “I want happiness. If happiness exists; then I want to be happy. Please, God/Higher Power help me to find happiness in my career.  Help guide me in the direction of what will make me happy.   Please.  I just want to be happy.” ~ Ridea