Emotional Intelligence Gives You The Power To Move Forward

I have nothing but contempt and feel as if my life is being wasted.

~Worker Living in NEW JERSEY

On Plutchik’s color wheel of emotions, the emotion of contempt is between rage, anger, loathing and disgust.

If I have contempt for my job today I will ask myself:  “Why am I living in this swirl of negative emotions?

How can I balance it with joy, trust, and anticipation?”  It’s not a trick question.  We need to balance negative emotions with positive ones.

How can we do that today?

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

Get Beyond the WHY and Move on to HOW to Connect to Your Purpose

This job is such a spiritual, emotional and integrity disconnect. 

I fantasize about escape every day and can’t breathe. 

I know there has to be more to life.  

~Worker Living in FLORIDA

In order for us to get connected back to ourselves, our hopes, our dreams, and our purpose we have to know if we are disconnected.

If we KNOW we are disconnected it doesn’t really matter why.  We all know the reason why…we needed a job…we need a salary…we haven’t been able to find another job…ect…ect…ect…, but NONE of that truly matters…we are still disconnected.

Get beyond WHY and just move on to HOW.

How are you going to get connected?

What type of job (maybe it’s not a job; maybe THAT is the problem, you think you need to find ANOTHER job); profession; cause; or endeavor will connect you to your authentic self.

There is only ONE you. Connect back to your hopes, your dreams (even those that seem dashed), and most importantly, connect back to your purpose.

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

See Your Boss Today As Just Another Person With Problems, Hopes and Dreams...Just Like You.

I feel unappreciated and undervalued and my boss does not listen. 

My job is  manual and the data entry is killing my arm. I pulled my side muscle lifting boxes.

The boss is always making snide remarks about someone, and I got one of my co-worker a job and it has been a h*ll hole ever since.

~Worker Living in ARKANSAS

Our bosses are just people. 

They are just people like we are. 

They are people with problems, families, issues, hopes, and dreams.

Have you ever considered that people can’t give you something that they don’t have to give? 

Have you ever considered that your boss might be miserable as well? 

Let’s sit back today, regardless of how we feel about our bosses or how miserable they are making our lives and realize that they are just people.  We won’t work for them always, one day we will be gone, we will move on or they will move on, but that boss has to live with themselves…always.

 

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

Want to Be Creative? It's Going to Cost You...Time....Energy...Courage.

My job is making me dull and unimaginative.

This is not the job I want to do.

It makes me sad when I wake up in the mornings.

~Worker Living in INDIA

Today, think of one creative idea.

Think of and write down just one creative idea.

You are not dull.

You are not unimaginative.

You are creative.

Just think –  if we all just thought of ONE creative idea today what might happen?  Our sparks of creativity might materialize into creating something new that could change the world.

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

The Corporate Grind - A Powerful Force To Help You Decide To Pursue Your Purpose

I cannot seem to get the clarity and focus to even figure out what I am passionate about.

It seems to me I just may need to remove the stress, and tension that the corporate grind promotes before I can really move in the right direction.

~Worker Living in MASSACHUSETTS

How close are you to completing Step 1 of the “Just Quit” Steps?

When you get to the point where you KNOW as hard as you have tried that you must remove the tension and stress of your job to move forward; you are close to making the decision to “Just Quit”.

The Corporate Grind is a powerful force.

Use that force to help you move forward.

You just have to decide that you are going to quit; you don’t have to quit today or tomorrow or next month; just make the decision today.

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

Use The Bubble of Protection For Negative Work Environments

I really hate my job, the work atmosphere is very negative, and it’s a long commute.

I cry driving home from work. 

I feel sick all weekend especially Sunday because I have to go back into work Monday.

I feel work is all about the next mistake, not about how well you do the job.

~Worker Living in AUSTRALIA

Today, I will ask to find peace in my work environment.

If I know it is a negative place to be and there are bad vibes, then I will pretend that I have a bubble around me for my protection.

Today, “I am protected from the negativity that surrounds me on this job. Whatever negative thoughts, actions or deeds are directed my way will be reflected back to the other person and not touch me.  I am asking for there to be peace in my work environment today.”

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

Depressed Because of Your Job? You Will Get Through This & Tell Your Story One Day.

I feel unappreciated and humiliated at work.

I don’t care about learning insurance and my skills as a therapist are becoming less and less relevant. I hate being talked down to and yelled at by clients and providers. I hate that my time is micro managed down to the minute and it’s starting to overflow into my personal life.

I am in physical pain every day, and have become so depressed that my appearance has changed. I don’t like what I see in the mirror.

I am depressed on the weekends just thinking about having to go into work on Monday and am completely drained on the weekends.

I’m too tired, discouraged and too depressed to look for another job, and I’m afraid that they will notice that I look depressed and not offer me a job. 

~Worker Living in ILLINOIS

Depression is real.

Sometimes we don’t know we are depressed until we are in a deep depression.  We then look around and ask ourselves HOW did I get here?  We feel like we are in quicksand and sinking fast.  We can’t see a way out.  We wonder if others notice how flat we feel. 

We look in the mirror and don’t recognize ourselves. 

Yes, depression is real.

  If you have been depressed before think about how you came out of it. 

If you can’t remember, hold on to the fact that you DID come out of it. 

If you are further into a depression than you feel you have EVER been, then seek help. 

Why, because depression is real.

P.S.

If things are serious and you need help below are U.S. and Int’l Crisis Hotlines:

Living in the U.S.

Internationally

(Remember…the world needs you to make it through this…so you can tell your story of courage, endurance and transformation from this experience.   You will make…if you are in a deep depression and need help…talk to someone today).