Just Quit Allowing Others to Hurt You Over and Over and Over Again

” Whatever You Are Willing To Put Up With,

Is Exactly What You Will Have.”

~ Dr. Robert Anthony

Is there someone in your life that you know for sure

that you need to Let Go of?  

It might be hard to actually do it,

but can you at least acknowledge it today?

How many times are you going to allow one person to hurt you?

Is once enough? (Of course not.  Maybe it was an innocent mistake.)

Is twice too many times? (Okay, it’s not a mistake, it’s on purpose.)

What about three times? (A pattern is developing.)

How many times will you turn the other way?

How many times will you pretend it didn’t happen?

How many times will you act like it’s okay.

(You’re not really hurt.  You’ll get over it.)

How many times will you talk yourself out of walking away so this person can’t hurt you anymore?

Of course, you could be wrong.  Your perspective could be off. You could be overreacting.

When you are certain that you can not accept or live with the behaviors of others and how it impacts you, then it’s time to Let Them Go.

If you know in your heart that long-term you can not accept how they treat you

  — STOP—-THINK—-

it’s just a matter of time before you have to face the facts.

Of course, you think things are going to change

What makes you think things are going to change?

You HOPE things are going to change.

HOPE is a good thing, but sometimes hope is just wishful thinking (be honest with yourself right now – you know it is).

You think it’s so hard to start over with a new relationship.

You think you’ve come so far with this person.

You think you won’t find anyone else who understands you as well.

But, you know that in all relationships there are

beginnings,

the middle

and endings.

Relationships are like stories.

You know that relationships change.

You know that sometimes that change is an ending.

You might not remember,

but you’ve probably been here before in a relationship,

so you know that you will survive.

 

Just Quit Thinking Your Situations are Impossible

This marriage is impossible.

Paying these bills are impossible.

Finding a job is impossible.

Raising these teenagers is impossible.

Starting a company is impossible.

Losing weight is impossible.

Saving money is impossible.

Finishing college is impossible.

Forgiving others is impossible.

Keeping the house clean is impossible.

Finding time to get it all done is impossible.

Solving all the problems in this country is impossible.

Figuring out who “God” is – is impossible. 

If it were impossible then – it– would– NOT– be– possible–

under any circumstance.

Honestly, are many or any of these everyday “circumstances” really impossible?

Didn’t you think other things that were hard seem impossible too?

Didn’t they work out?

Maybe it was not easy or quick or solvable the way you wanted them to be, but they weren’t impossible.

Moving from

Impossible

to I’m Possible:

1. Accept What Is and Be Grateful For What Is

2. Decide that it is Possible because of the I’m in Possible

 3. See Opportunities from the I’m Possible Vantage Point

Let Go of “Impossible”

Free Yourself

 

Just Quit Struggling - The Struggle is Over!

Life is Not a Struggle!

Aren’t You Tired of Struggling?  I AM!

• Struggling to make ends meet. (What on earth does that even mean any more?)
• Struggling to make relationships “work”.
• Struggling to find your path or mission in life.
• Struggling to still have goals when you’ve watched them come and go.
• Struggling to see a bright ending when everything looks bleak.
• Struggling to still be in control when everything seems out of control.
• Struggling to keep up with the news.
• Struggling to keep up with technology.
• Struggling to keep up with family and friends.
• Struggling to stay on your job.
• Struggling to keep your house maintenance up.
• Struggling to keep your cars working.
• Struggling to keep your marriage from falling apart.
• Struggling to keep your kids on the straight and narrow.
• Struggling to keep people out of your business.
• Struggling to pay your bills.
• Struggling to stay healthy.
• Struggling to buy your medications.
• Struggling to buy groceries.
• Struggling to lose weight.
• Struggling to keep the weight off.
• Struggling to find love.
• Struggling to find yourself.
• Struggling to keep it all together.

The only Real Struggle is Seeing it All as a Struggle.

Just Let Go of Seeing Life as a Struggle.

Just Live.  Just Love.  Just Be.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What Do You Need To Let Go Of To Embrace Love?

 

What if Love is All There Is?

What is Love?

Is Love a Thing?

Is Love an Emotion?

Is Love a Thought?

Is Love a Feeling?

Is Love a Choice?

Can we explain Love?

Is Love what you do?

Is Love what you say?

Is Love what you get?

How do you know you are Loved?

Is Love what someone does?

Is Love what someone says?

Is Love what someone buys?

How do we know we are Loving?

Do you know how to Love?

What if you’ve never been Loved?

How do you Learn to Love?

Who do you Love?

Do you Love Yourself?

How do you Know you Love Yourself?

Can you Love Others if you Don’t Love Yourself?

How do Others Know that you Love Them?

Is it Love or Is it Attachment?

Can you Let Go of What you Love?

Can you Let Go of Who you Love?

After you Let Go is Love Still There?

Where does Love Go when the Person Leaves?

Where does Love Go when another Person Hurts You?

What is the Relationship between Love and Hurt?

Can you Love Someone even if you Don’t like them?

Can you Love Someone even if you Don’t know them?

Can you Love a Thing?

Can you Love your Enemy?

Can you Love the Other?

Really, What is Love? (Suppose love is all there is…)

~by Ridea Richardson

 

 

Just Quit Living in Hell When You've Seen A Glimpse of Heaven

There are some relationships that are like living in hell.

• ~They are painful.

• ~We don’t grow when we are in them.

• ~They make us feel sad.

We wonder how we ended up in them and wonder still yet how to get out of them.

It’s worse when you discover a new relationship that feels great.

• ~Feels Comfortable.

• ~Feels Right.

• ~Feels like Heaven.

So you have to ask yourself – – –

• ~Do you stay in hell, when you know that you could go to heaven?

• ~If you stay in hell, why you are staying there?  Is it because it’s painful,but the known?

• ~Are you are willing to give up the familiar for the hopes of heaven? (You really don’t know FOR SURE that the new relationship will be heaven — you might end up being back in hell)

Maybe this is when all you can do is JUST QUIT the one relationship that you know FOR SURE is hell.

Have the fortitude and courage to face the pain of ending something that is not working.

Claim Your Power.

The Power to JUST QUIT

If you never JUST QUIT the “hell” relationship

you know FOR SURE that you will never enjoy the “heaven” one.

Life is what we make it.

Always has been, always will be.

 ~Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

To Just Quit Takes Love and Courage

 

(I found the below somewhere on the web…

but it didn’t have any byline…it’s not mine..but it’s really good)

 

To let go does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To let go is not to enable,
but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
it’s to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective,
it’s to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fearless, love more and have courage

Just Quit Living With a Broken Heart

 

How many times has your heart been broken and you’ve turned the other way?

How many times have you said to yourself that it doesn’t matter what someone did, didn’t do, said or didn’t say?

How many times have you told yourself how strong you are?

How many times have you thought about what you should have said or done when someone hurt you, but you didn’t say it or do it?

How many times have you played past hurts over and over  and over again in you mind?

How many times have you gotten to the point where you can’t even remember the hurt or the pain because it’s so far down and you’ve suppressed it?

How many times have you wondered if something “actually happened”, because it hurt you so badly and you’re blocking it out?

When are you going to deal with all the ways, things, and people who have hurt you?

How are you going to deal with it?

Are you going to deal with it?

How do you put your heart back together and become open again to love and relationships?

Isn’t it time to Just Quit Living With a Broken Heart?

Isn’t it time to Let Go of the hurts and the pains of the past?

Isn’t it time to Let Go of those who have hurt you, or brought you pain?

Isn’t it time to heal?  How can you heal your heart?

Isn’t it time to Let Go of the fears and the doubts of opening up to love again?

 If now isn’t the time  – then when is?

When You Just Quit Living Will There Be A Soul's Graduation?

HOPI PRAYER of  The Soul’s Graduation

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there,
I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight
On the ripened grain.
I am the gentle Autumn’s rain.
When you awaken in the morning hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there.
I did not die.
My Spirit is still alive…

This was on the back on the funeral program of a man who lived a well-lived life.  He made a difference in the lives of others.  He left love and wonderful memories over the course of his life.

Before we get to the end of our life we still have time to ask ourselves what is one thing that we need to Just Quit so we can live a well-lived life.  The more I think about his  life the more I know the one thing that he Just Quit doing was being selfish.  He gave of his time, his resources, his wisdom and his love.  He did it seemingly effortlessly but I know that it wasn’t because it’s not easy to care about other people.

His spirit is still alive in those who had the honor of knowing him – Mr. William Kennedy Lane, Jr.  –  what a privilege.

How can you live the type of life where people will drive miles, cry at your funeral and remember you fondly?

Will people be able to say that you lived a well-lived life?

Just Quit Staying in Unhealthy Relationships

 “There’s no need to miss someone from your past.

There’s a reason they didn’t make it to your future” – Unknown

Some people hold on to relationships that are unhealthy because they believe that  it’s better than nothing or they are afraid of letting go.

Have you ever met the type of person who stayed in a relationship (for years) and you thought the reason was because they were afraid of being alone, making it on their own, or just waiting for the kids to grow up?

It is so hard to break molds and behavioral patterns.  It takes recognizing the need to change, then having the courage to Just Quit the relationship.

All you have to do is keep remembering that this is “your life”. Do you want to waste any more time with this person, or do you need to move on?

Just be honest with yourself.  No matter how difficult this may be, just be honest with yourself.

Not that you will end the relationship tomorrow, but you need to make the decision today.

The Family and Friends Saga

Sometimes those relationships that we need to Just Quit are with family members or “best friends”.

There comes a point and time in your life when you wake up one morning and realize that you can choose how you want to relate even to family and dear friends.  Yes, you need to fulfill all of your obligations, but just be aware of the people in your life.

• Maybe they are draining you of all of your energy.
• Maybe they are just plain jealous of you
• Maybe they  use you for everything that they can.
• Maybe they are too dang needy, and you’re the one they call on to fulfill their needs.
• Maybe they live their lives through you.
• Maybe you support them in their endeavors, but they never support you.
• Maybe you just listen to their problems, but don’t feel comfortable sharing your problems with them.

If you have family and  “friends” who exhibit these behaviors then it might be time to ~ Break Free. 

Let them go.

Don’t call them back.

Don’t continue to be used.

…and don’t wait until you think it’s the perfect time to leave.

The perfect time is NOW.

DO IT NOW

 Just Quit.

It’s a liberating thing to do.

Is there a relationship currently in your life that you know is unhealthy and that you need to  at least make the decision to Just Quit? 

Are you willing to make a commitment

to yourself just to make the decision? 

Do you find even making the decision hard? 

Why? (Now, Just Keep Asking Yourself Why?)

 

Just Quit Not Accepting That You Could Be Part of The Problem In Your Relationships

 

“We need in love to practice only this: letting each other go.

For holding on comes easily–we do not need to learn it.”

– Rainer Maria Rilke

Relationships connect us to each other.   Most of the time they are great and make life worth living. Sometimes they are not so good and then HARD to get out of because they are so familiar, so comfortable, and so everyday.

Relationships are complicated and involve many emotions, memories and ties. Even when a relationship is bad, at least it is the known versus the unknown. Even when a relationship is bad, at least it is some human contact that is familiar.

There are some relationships that we have that are not in balance.  They are not healthy.  Many relationships we want and need to improve, set some boundaries, or eliminate all together.

Your Relationships always include YOU

You’ll have to deal with the harder questions about yourself.  You’ll have to figure out what attracted this type of person into your life. People are mere reflections of others.  There is something in that person that is a reflection of you.

WHO WANTS TO HEAR THAT? 

Unless you are ready and willing to deal with yourself, this person in your life does not matter. Even though they are making you miserable and bringing you down, and they don’t have your best interest in mind, it doesn’t matter.

It is not this person’s fault BECAUSE the person who is doing these things to you (to “your life”) may…just…really…be…you.

Even if you got rid of that person, you’ll probably attract another person just like them into your life.  Then you’ll have the same type of situations to deal with, just with a new face.

If you’re honest with yourself, haven’t you found that to be the truth?

Learn to love yourself first, find yourself, be good to yourself…you have to start there first.

Just Quit Talking on the Telephone (for hours!)

You have been warned against letting the golden hours slip by. Yes, but some of them are golden only because we let them slip by.
~James Matthew Barrie~

When you are talking on the telephone what are you talking about?  

You can talk for hours on and off about what’s happening, what’s gonna happen, what you hope would happen, your children, your house, your hobbies, your business ideas, church folk, work folk, shopping, losing weight, your hair, your aches and pains, men or women.  The list can just go on and on.

When you look back, was it all helpful, or was it a complete waste of precious time? 

 Stop escaping and just talking about life and “live” your life.

How much time do you spend talking or texting everyday? 

Is it a worthwhile use of your time?

Just Quit Surfing Online --- Endlessly

If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan.

And guess what they have planned for you?

Not much.  ~Jim Rohn~

How many hours can you blow going on-line? 

You can spend two to three hours going online to get your news, read your e-mail, work on your blog, read the Facebook News, write your opinion, and just google stuff.

Actually, we all know that watching television and surfing online can be all-night activities. Somehow you feel like you have more control because you can determine what you will read or hear online. Going on-line might be alright if you are creating something of your own and not  just reading something others have created.

Here’s a Question:

What benefits do you derive from going on-line AND more importantly are you addicted and neglecting other things you need to be doing?

Just Quit Watching This Sport AND That Sport

We watch others play a game that they get millions of dollars to play.

We want to see who wins because we love the competition, or we need to escape from the reality of our lives.

We love being able to have a common bond with those at work, who are doing the same thing we are doing – watching other people do what they get paid to do.

We can talk about the television shows and the sporting events as though they were a matter of life or death.

Some people watch sports in moderation, but to some people keeping up with sports is a VERY big part of their lives and conversations.

Have you ever heard someone talk about what they watched on television the night before as though it really made a difference in their lives?  

What difference will that show or game that someone watched last night really make?

What value does it really yield?

Do you need to Just Quit knowing every score, every team, every sport?  

Just Quit Shopping

“I don’t care nothing about a sale.  If you spend all your money just because something is on sale you won’t have the money when you really need it. “

~James Harvey Richardson

 

How do you Just Quit Shopping?

It’s hard if you’ve been doing it for years because it has become a part of your lifestyle.

How many people do you see “just looking” at the mall and stores? 

They go around the entire store “just looking”.

What are they looking for? 

They are looking for a bargain, of course.

How could it possibly be a bargain if you really don’t need it?

How many conversations can be overheard about how cheap that item was and how it was found for 50% off and another 20% off of that?  Who cares?  That’s 100% of your money that you could have used in a more productive way.

How many people go through the buy it, try it, and take it back to the store routine? 

The next time you go through this cycle, ask yourself why you’re living like this.  Now you have wasted your time “just looking” and your money buying something you knew you didn’t need.  You now have to make another trip to the store to take back whatever it was that you didn’t need in the first place.

Yes, you’ll get your money back, but doesn’t this seem like a waste of time and energy?

If you MUST go to the stores, then go to the stores.  Keep on “just looking.”  Get a basket, and fill it with the items you want to buy.  Try on the clothes and shoes and enjoy the “process” of shopping.

Then, one by one, look at everything in your basket, and ask yourself four questions:

1. Do I need this?
2. Do I have something else like this?
3. Can I afford this?

Then, one by one, put the items back that are in your cart, and walk out of the store.

Make a habit of telling yourself that, no matter what, you will not buy anything the first time you see it.

If there was something in that basket that you just must have, then go back and get it the next day.  That will be your pact with yourself.  Don’t ask them to hold it for you, either.  Just put it back, and don’t hide it so you are the only one to find it later.    If you even remember you wanted it, and it’s there the next day, then buy it.  You probably won’t even remember the next day.

Think about all the  time you spend–wasted time–“just looking” at stuff you don’t need and can’t afford.

What Else Could You Be Doing With Your Time?

  Do you want a degree? 

Do you want to have a hobby?

Have you always wanted to know more about antiques? 

Do you want to rebuild that car?

Do you want to own your own business? 

If you add up your time “just looking,” you would have time to do things that might really matter to your life.

Do You Need to Just Quit Shopping?

Just Quit Wasting Time by Watching So Much Television

 “Television  is Chewing Gum for the Eyes”

~ Frank Lloyd Wright

 

Some people do anything to “keep busy” so that they don’t have to really think about how to fix their lives.

How many people come home from a job (they might hate) and sit on the couch to watch “anything” on television? 

They are holding the remote and flipping through channel after channel looking for “something” to watch on television.

What a complete waste of time. 

The great equalizer – 24 hours a day

Remember, all you have that is equal to others is time.  You have 24 hours a day.  That’s all everyone gets.  That’s all the time in a day that you get.

You can spend it anyway you like…just don’t waste it.

So, if you spend eight hours at a job you hate and then 2-4 hours watching anything on television, then you have spent 10-12 hours of that day…basically wasted.

So, what’s new in the news?

Is it anything you haven’t kind-of heard before?

What can that talking head tell you that the one yesterday didn’t tell you?

Have you ever wondered if the news isn’t just like a commercial? Just how impartial can the news be when they have sponsors and advertisers who are just a phone call away?

Contest shows and Reality TV

The entertainment with all of the thrill in which you can join in on the action.

So now television executives have figured out that folks don’t like fiction…they want something real to “watch”.

Everything in Moderation

Don’t waste the precious time that you have watching “something” that WILL NOT MATTER, and YOU WILL NOT REMEMBER a year from now.

Do you want proof?  What did you watch a year ago today on television that MATTERS and that you REMEMBER? (see you can’t remember…you can’t even go back on-line and find what you watched…no record…BECAUSE it doesn’t matter)

 Ask yourself this question when you are making decisions about how to “invest” your time:

 “Will this matter a year from now?”

Determining Your Just Quit Thing

“By being selfish, you will not only die alone, 

but you will live alone.”

 ~David LaMar Williams~

How do you determine the one thing that you need to Just Quit or Let Go Of?

One method is to begin with the end in mind by using The End Results Model.

One day will be your “end day,” your “it’s over day”.  One day you will be a “no more nothing person” that people will be talking about and remembering at your funeral. On this day people will not understand where you went.  You’ll be like a flower that has blown away in the wind.  You were here yesterday. What happened to you?   You will be just a memory.   You will be just part of the history of the earth.

You were born, you lived, and you died.

It’s hard to truly accept this, although we all know it’s going to happen.  It’s one of the only guarantees in life!

What if … you started …to live…your life…as though…you are…IN THAT MOMENT?

You are now looking back on your life today  – right now – in this moment

Can you see yourself right at this very instant in your life?

What does your life look like right now?

STOP reading for a second and think.

Really STOP Reading…Think…

Now ask yourself –  What is that ONE thing I wished I had Just Quit or Stop Doing or Let Go Of?

Pretend Like You Are Gone –

What do you want out of life?
What do you want to be, do or have?
How will you live the rest of your life?

NOW –

What is holding you back?

What are you holding onto

that is holding you back

and keeping you stuck?

Just Quit Starts Here

 

“An unexamined life is not worth living.”~Socrates~ 

You are the decision maker on what turns out to be “your life”.

“Your life” is comprised of a series of choices that you make: good or bad, that culminate into “your life”.

Life is full of surprises,  chance opportunities,  and moments that turn to memories.

In the end, everyone has the same task: to “create a life” for themselves.

 Just Quit = Letting Go is a place where you can take responsibility from this point on for “your life”.

Just Quit = Letting Go:
is a place to learn from others about the benefits of Letting Go.

is a resource for living a well-lived life.

is a place to examine your life and make it worth living.

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What kind of life have you “created”?

Is there anything or anyone that you need to Let Go of?

Think about it, and be honest with yourself.

Just Quit "Sitting in the Pew"

People Are Looking Everywhere For God

People sit in pews (some with their very own spot that they have claimed) week after week.  They listen to sermons Sunday after Sunday.

Hmmm…

Why are you just sitting in the pew?

• Ever wonder why one person gets to give all the sermons?
  • Doesn’t anyone else have anything to say?
• Ever wonder why it’s that person’s “job” to be the preacher?
  • What about if they didn’t get paid?
• Ever wonder why there is little to no interaction during the weekly sermons?
  • …Besides the stand up, sit down, turn to your neighbor stuff

Aren’t there adults sitting in those pews? 

• Don’t adults learn best when the learning is self-directed and active?
• Don’t adults have some responsibility to “get it”, even if it is from one person’s point of view about God, Religion, Truth, and Love?

Is Sitting In The Pew Getting You Anywhere?

At some point you have to ask yourself if sitting in that pew and checking the box is going to get you where you want to go spiritually. You have to ask yourself if you even know where you want to go spiritually. If all you are doing is doing what you know to do, then you need to rethink why you are sitting in that pew.  If you are doing what your parents, your spouse, your children, or others want you to do, then you need to rethink why you are sitting in that pew.

Is there anything about sitting in that pew that gets you closer to knowing God?

Not knowing the bible verses or favorite songs.  Not feeling hyped and emotional about the message or the song but knowing who God is.

The Sunday Morning Routine

Trying to figure out who God is, is harder than dragging yourself out of bed for the Sunday morning routine.

You know the routine:

~~getting ready,

~~yelling at your kids to tell them they HAVE to go to church,

~~looking around at all the things you need to be doing,

~~getting in the car,

~~speeding down the road to make it on time,

~~arriving to the church with a smile on your face,

~~ and a cheery “I’m fine” response to “How are you doing?”

Is Not Sitting In The Pew Getting You Anywhere?

Then there are those who are not physically sitting in the Pew in a place of worship. There are questions that you need to ask yourself as well. Is there anything about NOT going to an organized religious place of worship that gets you closer to the Source? You have to ask yourself why you are NOT involved in organized religion.  You have to ask yourself if what you ARE doing gets you closer to connecting to the Source.

Are you just complaining about those who “sit” in the pew? 

Do you have any spiritual practices?

What are your spiritual practices?

Do you meditate, pray, walk a labyrinth, go out in nature, read spiritual text, exercise,  watch your breath, go to “home church” or use other spiritual tools as you discover your spirituality?

“Sitting in the Pew” is a metaphor for not actively seeking and going on YOUR personal spiritual journey. 

Are you just “Sitting in the Pew” or are you Going on Your Spiritual Journey?

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Now ask yourself that question again…Because Guess What?…You Have to Question the Answers… if you think you’ve got it…you know, that you’ve got the answer to who God is…(and worse yet, if you think you- your church – your faith is the only RIGHT answer) then YOU ARE MOST PROBABLY WRONG…just for a second, challenge yourself and your beliefs…What if you are wrong?  What if you have been wrong all this time? It’s been said that those who know they don’t know…KNOW…those who think they know…DON’T KNOW…so don’t be afraid to question your assumptions and beliefs…that’s how you grow spiritually.  

Just Quit Trying to "Act Normal"

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. ~Lao Tzu~

How many of us look at other people (the neighbor across the street, the co-worker, or the family member) and think they might be doing better than us, or that they are smarter than us, or they look better than us?

How many try to be someone that they are not? How many try to “fit in”…but “fit into” what? Trying to fit into some preconceived mold just doesn’t work.

You have to figure out exactly who you are, why you are, and what you are here to be.

 

What is normal? 

Who gets to say what is normal?

Have you ever been around people who are not normal?

The “type” of people who other people consider emotionally or physically “challenged.”

“Challenged” is the politically correct term, but we all know what we call them in our minds.   Just be honest. They are not normal to us.

But of course they are normal because they are themselves, and that makes them as normal as possible.

Most of these challenged people are more normal than those who think they are normal.

Most people who are “challenged” emotionally or socially get to say what is on their minds.

They don’t have to worry about what others think. They just say what’s on their minds, and sometimes the most profound things come out.

Those who we consider physically challenged typically have a better appreciation for themselves and others.  The blind see things that the sighted will never see, and the deaf hear more than the hearing.

The next time you try to “act” normal just realize that no one is “normal”.

Just Realize You Are Here To Be Yourself

…but…Who ARE you?

Are you in touch with your emotions  (Energy in Motion) and your feelings?  (You are not your emotions or feelings but you need to be able to get in touch with them to help you get pass them and find your core self)

Just Quit Putting Off Retirement

One problem with gazing too frequently into the past is that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us.

~ Michael Cibenko

The day that you’ve been waiting for is right around the corner – RETIREMENT.

You have complained about:

• Your job
• The people you work with
• Your pay
• and not getting that promotion 10 years ago.

As you near the end of the countdown and THE day when any day thereafter you can retire, you begin to wonder if you should:

• Will you have enough money?

• What will you do everyday?

• Where will you go everyday?

• What if something happens that you can’t predict in the future? 

You begin to worry.  You’ve heard of others that have retired and their health went down shortly thereafter.  There are still others who had problems with their health insurance coverage or Medicare and wished they just stayed on the job a few more years or asked better questions.

If you are close to retirement, TODAY is the day to start asking questions

Make sure that you know the answers and are satisfied with them. Start making Retirement Plan A and Retirement Plan B.

Decide how you will live in retirement before you retire.

You will then have more confidence to be able to retire. Remember you are not retiring from LIFE.  You are retiring from that job, that career.  If this has been your life, then you have to start finding your passion NOW.

Who wants to still be hanging on an extra couple of years because they don’t know if they should retire?   What’s worse than that is having put in all that time, but not having enough money on which to live.

Retirement is the ultimate Just Quit, so make us proud.

Is Your Just Quit Thing to stop NOT planning for retirement?

What’s Is Your Retirement Plan? Start TODAY figuring it out…just start!

Just Quit Your Job

The Steps to Take to Just Quit Your Job:  

STEP # 1 – DECIDE

That’s it…JUST MAKE A DECISION

Many people NEVER make it past this first step because they CANNOT make a decision.

They go on and on about:

• How miserable they are…
• How stupid their boss is…
• How unfair the promotions are…
• How much they really hate their job…
• How much they hate the profession they are in…

They never really make the decision to say, “I am quitting my job”.  You have to first decide to do it. (You don’t do it before you DECIDE to do it).  You don’t have to quit today, just make the DECISION today.

Do You Know When You’ve Had Enough? 

People fool themselves to believe that the title, the money, the organization, the lure of travel, and prestige is all worth the hassle. You have to ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice your time, talents, and sometimes your soul for being miserable the majority of your waking hours.

THIS IS WHAT YOUR WEEK LOOKS LIKE WHEN ENOUGH IS ENOUGH

Around 4:00 p.m. on Sunday: You literally start to feel physically sick about facing another Monday morning.

Monday morning: You try to think of a good reason to call in sick (these days we just “text” in sick, but in 2003 you still “called in”).  You know you can’t call in because no one will believe you.  You know you’ll have to take off Tuesday as well to make it believable. You have a couple of meetings on Tuesday you know you can’t or shouldn’t miss. So calling in on Monday will not work.

Tuesday morning: You wake up at 6:00 a.m. and get out of bed at 7:10.  This is just enough time to get ready and make it in by 8:00.  Actually, it’s become a habit now of staying in bed until the last possible minute before you have to get out of bed.   You rush into work, looking like you just got out of bed.

Wednesday morning: Maybe you will call very early before you really wake up.  Then you could “sound” sick.  What is your ailment?  No. You can’t do it.

Thursday morning: It’s almost Friday. You can make it.  Just get up and make it in.  The goal is to just make it to your work station, your desk chair, or your office.  If you can possibly just make it there, you can make it through the day.

Friday morning: You cannot believe you made it through another week going through this madness.  You really can call in sick today, if you want, because after the weekend everyone will forget you “called in” sick.  (We don’t even say that the person was sick, we say they “called in” sick…everybody understands the deal!) Yeah, they’ll know you’re not sick, but it’s not as noticeable.  But of course you’d have to stay around the house ‘cause you’re sick, right? Then you really can’t have a lot of fun on the weekend ‘cause someone might see you from work, right?  Better just get this day out-of-the-way and go in because you want to enjoy the weekend.  This is your reprieve time.

Friday night: Just you, the couch, and the TV because you are drained from the week.

Saturday: Find anything fun to do because that’s what the weekend’s about, right? Maybe just stay in the house and retreat because mentally you are tired and you’ll have to face Monday pretty soon.

Sunday: You are back in torment asking someone to please help you; help you figure this out because you just can’t go on.   You just can’t face another week.

Around 4:00 p.m. on Sunday you literally start to feel physically sick about facing another Monday morning.

This is how it is when it’s time to Just Quit your job.

Look at this life.  Is this living? This is a very wasted life to say the least. But you have to pay your bills, you have to eat, and you have to pay for all those other things that are a necessity, right? Of course you do, and you will but not here and not this way.

 

 Are You Ready To DECIDE That You Will “Just Quit” Doing What is Making You Miserable, In Order To Do What You Were Born To Do?

You don’t have to quit today or tomorrow,

just make THE DECISION today.

Just Quit Seeking...It's Already There!

“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering.
Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.”
~Thich Nhat Hanh~

People are hurting

People need help

People are in pain

People have problems

People want routine

People want to believe they will be saved

People are looking for relief

People are looking for a quick fix

People want an hour of power

People want to shout

People want to sing

People want a way to release energy

People want a good-feeling thing

People want the hype and then more hype

People want a fortune cookie sermon…“That sermon was just for me!”

People really want to break free and be soulful, but they think they have to follow the masses when what they seek is hiding inside of them; not a building, not another, not a sermon, not a song and not a book…it’s already there…it always has been.

~By Ridea Richardson – written while sitting at a church in Baltimore Maryland watching people

Just Quit Trying to Be Someone Else - Be Yourself

“God was lonely, so he made himself a world.”

~Rosa Richardson

There have been billions and billions of people who have lived before you and billions who will live on after you are gone.

Don’t try to fit into being “normal”, why not just be yourself.

Just Quit  is about taking the time to figure out who that is and being that person.

Don’t try to be that person, but be that person.

Just be yourself.  Let Go and Discover Who You Are.

Who are you?

Really, who are you?

Not your many roles,
not your job,
not your title,
not your ego,
not your personality,
not your name,
not where you live,
not what you drive,
not where you work,
not what you do,
not your hobbies,
not your degrees,
not who your children are
not who you hope your children will be or what they will do,

but

who are YOU?

Really Who Are You?  

How Would You Describe Yourself Without Using a Label?

~Ridea Richardson

Just Quit Savings Account

 

You know how you’ve always been told to save for a rainy day? 

Financially maybe your rainy day is already here. 

In order to Just Quit somethings in life  (like your job) you’ll need some savings to hold you over until you figure it out.

 Sometimes you just can’t figure it out in the place you’re at. 

There is just too much static,

too much noise,

too much chaos

to figure it out. 

You need to take a hiatus,

lay yourself off,

move on,

and get on with it.

So where are your raining day funds?

Many of us may not have any money saved, it’s sad, but it’s  true.

If you still have a job (be grateful first) then start planning.

If you are on this job and you are NOT at the suicide or harming someone else stage,

then start your

“Just Quit Savings Account”

Save enough money for at least six months of basic expenses.

I know how impossible this may sound, but it’s possible.

You might have to get creative.  Figure out ALL the pockets of money you have.

Determine what basic expenses are for you.

Basic expenses do not include having cable television,

eating out whenever you want,

or having both a cell phone and a land line.

You’ll have to cut back!

Basic expenses are just that:

basic living expenses like housing, eating (cooking), and transportation expenses.

Categorize your expenses into two categories:

the necessary and the optional

Eliminate the optional expenses.

For the necessary expenses you’ll need to determine if you can reduce them any further.

Can you change your phone service company or phone options to save money?

Just keep your options open to ways to save money and reduce expenses.

These basic expenses are what you’ll need to begin to save for.

Stop charging on your credit cards

(Yes, I know that will be hard for some, because it might be what’s making ends meet)

Stop buying all that junk that is only junk if  you had to sell it later on.

 Your Just Quit Power

The more money you have, the more Just Quit power you have.

That day when you know any day of your choosing,

you can walk into your boss’s office and say,

“I’m leaving, I’m resigning, I’m Outta Here”

is a beautiful day.

It’s even more wonderful when you can take some “me” time to try to figure it out before you start your next venture.

Start Your Just Quit Saving Account today

…even if it’s just $5 week!