When Will You Explore and Do The Things YOU Want To Do? Today? Tomorrow? NEVER?

I am unhappy with the way work takes over my life.

I have other things I want to do (write) and  work leaves no time for that.

I also want to be able to do things thoroughly, not be rushing all the time.

I’ve showed lots of symptoms of stress lately and at 50 who knows how much quality time I have left?

If I don’t give myself time now to explore the things I want to explore, when will it ever happen?

~Worker Living in the UNITED KINGDOM

One day will be our last day.

One day this adventure we call life will all be over.

That’s how the story ends for everyone. None of us know the end date, but we know that it’s coming.

What do you want to explore?

How long do you think you’ll have time to explore and find out what you like or what you’re good at?

Today, commit to exploring what you want to do and what brings you joy and happiness.

 If you know what that is (like writing) then ask yourself why you are not doing what you love to do? DO NOT settle for the answer that it won’t pay the bills…go deeper.

This is your life and no one else’s. 

If you are supposed to write and be a writer then WRITE. If you align yourself with what YOU were born to do, you will not be denied THAT.  That thing will pay the bills one way or another and no one can stop that from happening…except YOU getting in your own way.

Today, Explore.

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

P.S.

Tomorrow in the U.S. is Columbus Day… EXPLORE, DREAM, DISCOVER sail away from the safe harbor.

   

       

Stuck Doing Daily Tasks That You Hate? Move On. Find Your Balance.

I can’t stand the job description. I totally regret taking up this job.

I hate the daily MIS I need to send out every day. To make things worse, I’m very bad at Excel, thus I take a lot of time to do it and it’s very stressful.  All the sales people and bosses are waiting to see the daily MIS every day and it has to be sent out before lunch time. Worst of all, the figures MUST tally, if not I have to re-calculate it all over again. Other than MIS, the rest of my job duties are extremely administrative.

It makes me feel like I was very useless, even being a degree holder.

~Worker Living in SINGAPORE

Sometimes we just know when we are not well-suited for our jobs; especially if there is a daily task that we have to do and we aren’t good at it and don’t want to do it. 

We just need to admit that we don’t like doing that daily task and ask ourselves if we CAN ever enjoy doing it.

Otherwise what is the point of day-after-day doing things we don’t enjoy and aren’t good at?

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

Work Step 4 Today - Finding YOUR Purpose

I am not happy doing what I am doing.

I want to work in Forensics and this job is nowhere near where I want to be. 

~Worker Living in GEORGIA

Today, work on Step 4 – Finding Your Purpose.

If you know exactly what you want to do then take action towards that path. 

Focus on what you want to do like a laser beam. 

It does not matter if you have NEVER been able to nail down what you think your purpose is…this is your time…

Use this situation to discover your purpose and passions

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

 

Free Your Mind. Have Courage. Walk Through The Door.

I cannot seem to even figure out what I have any passion for. 

I have no energy nor can I concentrate to really think about what really makes me happy. I have no idea at this point.

I make it to the weekends drained and always seem to think about what is coming up the next day or the next week – some weeks are worse than others. 

~Worker Living in MASSACHUSETTS

Today, I will live my life EVEN THOUGH I am miserable on my job.

I will not live to just make it to the weekend.  I will find something to do to relieve the stress so that I can free my mind to figure out what I am passionate about.

Even if I just take a minute and deeply breathe, then that’s what I will do.

The more I can find what works for me to relieve the stress the closer I will get to being able to use every day to find my way out of this situation.

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

Finding Your Purpose - Work You Love; You're Good At It; The World Needs It and You Can Get Paid For It

I’m tired of working in the financial industry.

I feel like I’m not suited for my current job.

I don’t see the value in the work I’m currently doing.

~Worker Living in CANADA

Doing work that matters…matters to us.

We can do work that matters.

We must believe that we can.

We must search for it and believe we will find it.

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

Release Fear and Doubt. Is Your Job Making You Miserable? Let Go to Let Come.

My current work conditions are not at all hostile and things could definitely be a lot worse.

My boss and co-workers are pleasant for the most part, and I understand that having good people to work with is half the battle. While these factors are tolerable and even attractive at times, the actual work I am doing is completely opposite of my interests/skills, and I am beyond the point of tolerance to where I can stand it.

I work at a bank as a banker- sales and customer service… and more sales.

When I took the job over a year ago, I thought that the job would be more analytical and research work (which is what my interests are), but no, sales and goals and quarterly quotas.

I am zero percent comfortable with pushing products onto customers and invading their personal lives and overcoming their objections. I personally cannot stand being sold to by a salesman, and that is what my position is.

It has gotten to the point where I have gone two straight quarters of not hitting quarterly sales goals/bonus, and it is because I do not even try any more to make sales or do the outbound calls that I am supposed to make. I cannot stand doing any of that.

My numbers have dropped so badly that the past couple of weeks have consisted of my boss monitoring every conversation I have with customers and making sure I make my calls. I know that he can tell my heart is not there.

I am not happy.

I go to work, I just surf on the internet, boss walks by, I try to look busy, and then back to surfing. I would much rather be at a job where I had actual busy work to do.  I cannot find any motivation to pick up the phone and sell something to someone or upsell products with customers in the branch.

This depressive work state has affected other areas of my life, including my overall mood, my relationship with my girlfriend, and other things.

I just feel worthless, bleak, and unaccomplished from getting no satisfaction out of my job.

I have enough money saved to live comfortably unemployed for 5-6 months, and if I live frugally for close to 9-12 months. I just graduated with my business degree this past May, I am 23, no children, a car payment/rent/phone bill, and a supportive girlfriend of 6 years.

I have a lot of opportunity to find something, because I don’t have a wife or kids to support at this point in time.

Quitting just feels right, but my only fear is what my parents/girlfriend/girlfriend’s parents will think. They may not share my same enthusiasm. And also, what if I do not find anything, and have a huge gap in my employment history? At the same time though, my performance has slipped so badly that it is basically a waiting game before I either quit or end up getting fired. If I continue any more at this rate, I may totally burn the bridge of having this employer as a good reference. I have been actively applying for multiple jobs a day for the past four months, but nothing yet.

We will see what ends up happening.

~Worker Living in MISSOURI

We have been so conditioned for so long not to be a quitter.

“Just Quit” is not about quitting because we have given up or because we can’t cut it…it’s about letting go of what we know for sure is not going to work for us. 

It might have worked for us at some point, but it’s not working for us now and whatever was working is gone. We know it’s gone. We have checked with our body, mind, soul and spirit and every checkpoint confirms that it is time to leave.

Then what happens? 

We make our plans and we work the Steps.  We know we are ready. 

Then what happens?

Fear and Doubt start their jobs on us.  We can linger right there in Fear and Doubt and miss out on the window of opportunity that was right there for us to make our exit.

Maybe that next door can’t open until you close this one.

Maybe this is a test to see if you can trust yourself. 

We have been conditioned to think that we have to see the open door before we close this one…not always…and especially not if it’s a test for you.

Either you are ready or you are not.  Trust yourself.

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

So now you ask…HOW do I release doubt and fear?HERE’S THE ANSWER

Another Work Week To Face. Depressed? Don't Give Up.

I’m depressed, anxious, stressed, and contemplate suicide at work.

I’m physically sick from the depression, anxiety and stress, and being sick at work only makes the mental problems worse, which starts a cycle.

My boss is an a**hole with unrealistic demands.

I have to do all of my work, plus extra, plus clean up my co-worker’s half-a**ed job.

~Worker Living in MARYLAND

 

Today, seek help for your depression if you are contemplating suicide because of your job. 

Tell someone that you need help.  

You are reading from the book “Just Quit” & Live

There is some interesting scientifically based therapy that is part of what is being called the “third wave” in behavioral and cognitive therapy.  It is called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or ACT.

ACT is based on how the human mind works.

It can help you with the suffering and pain you may feel on Sunday’s as you face another work week. It teaches you how to use Mindfulness, Acceptance and Values to deal with suffering and pain.

Below is a good workbook  – Get Out of Your Mind and into Your Life